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Howard Thurman on the sound of the genuine within

Posted on September 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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How America’s Culture of Shame is a Killer for Boys – Mark Greene

Posted on April 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

How America’s Culture of Shame is a Killer for Boys This article by Mark is wonderful, and the writer was crying before the end…Although the title gives a masculine focus, the points made are valid for us all, however we … Continue reading →

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The Rupture of the Mother Line & the Cost of Becoming Real – Bethany Webster

Posted on February 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://womboflight.com/2014/12/21/the-rupture-of-the-mother-line-and-the-cost-of-becoming-real/ Fascinating article by Bethany on the mother-daughter relationship, its deeper potential and meanings, and the wounds inflicted by our culture. She explores the feminine journey into realness and wholeness, with mother as initiator or wounded saboteur – and how … Continue reading →

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