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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Grayson Perry on Gendering & Cultural Pressures

Posted on October 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this useful clip of Grayson Perry talking to Jon Snow on the extent to which gender and masculinity are culturally defined for children before they are even born. We notice at this service the huge … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on presence, and the over-use of force

Posted on April 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Useful thoughts from Jason. We think this is an issue for all of us, not only those self-defining as men. We all contain a balance of energies, and we participate in cultures which devalue or under-value body awareness, ‘beingness’ and … Continue reading →

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Bell Hooks on patriarchal violence to men

Posted on December 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an … Continue reading →

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Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch – Mark Greene

Posted on March 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-touch-isolation-how-homophobia-has-robbed-men-of-touch/ Intelligent and humane article from Mark Greene via http://www.goodmenproject.com. In the writer’s view, this is a cultural issue going beyond touch between men, and issues around sexual identity or homophobia – huge as these are. As Mark acknowledges, our … Continue reading →

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Debunking the Myths about Boys and Emotions By Vicki Zakrzewski

Posted on December 3, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/debunking_myths_boys_emotions Click on the link for this useful and important piece by Vicki Zakrzewski. Gratitude to Sarah for posting this on her Facebook page and introducing us to it. We notice a lot of subtle (and less subtle) gender prejudice … Continue reading →

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‘The Mask You Live In’: The Representation Project

Posted on January 2, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Powerful message here – U.S. focused, and just as relevant to perceptions of/attitudes to maleness/the masculine and what is is ‘to be a man’ in the UK. Well worth a watch. Here are source links to Beyond Meds (with thanks … Continue reading →

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