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Small Gods – Martin Shaw

Posted on October 22, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://drmartinshaw.com/essays/ Click on the link above for another powerful piece from Martin. Here’s a taste:- ‘Once upon a time there was a lonely hunter. One evening, returning to his hut over the snow, he saw smoke coming from his chimney. … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on Reclaiming ourselves

Posted on March 6, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Reclaiming ourselves usually means coming to recognize and accept that we have in us both sides of everything. We are capable of fear and courage, generosity and selfishness, vulnerability and strength. These things do not cancel each other out but … Continue reading →

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Carl Jung on emotion, conflict & consciousness

Posted on February 9, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The stirring up of conflict is a Luciferian virtue in the true sense of the word. Conflict engenders fire, the fire of affects and emotions, and like every other fire it has two aspects, that of combustion and that of … Continue reading →

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Joseph Campbell on Individuating

Posted on January 24, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“To become — in Jung’s terms — individuated, to live as a released individual, one has to know how and when to put on and to put off the masks of one’s various life roles. ‘When in Rome, do as … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Posted on August 31, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on presence, and the over-use of force

Posted on April 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Useful thoughts from Jason. We think this is an issue for all of us, not only those self-defining as men. We all contain a balance of energies, and we participate in cultures which devalue or under-value body awareness, ‘beingness’ and … Continue reading →

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Belonging: Be the Longing – Toko-pa

Posted on March 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link at the end of this piece for Toko-pa’s wonderful post. ‘The ache to belong in friendship and community can be so pervasive that it colours everything we do.‘ The writer stumbled across these words yesterday, and … Continue reading →

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Rainer Maria Rilke on Solitude

Posted on January 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Therefore, dear Sir, love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away… and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast. And … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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