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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer on being lied about

The writer is only too familiar with the feeling Oriah describes: ‘constricted, shaken, a little frantic….helpless’ – and with the inward and outward impacts of being privately and publicly lied about, with significant harm done. At one level she subscribes … Continue reading

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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading

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Pema Chödrön: What to Do When You Lose It Completely

Just under 3 minutes of gold from Pema. What she suggests is a pause, a directing of the attention inwards, rather than into an/another explosion outwards of resentment or aggression. The purpose is an opening and a softening, to self … Continue reading

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Lessons from life undercover – AJ+

‘Everybody believes they are the good guy….the only real way to disarm your enemy is to listen to them….as long as your enemy is a sub-human psychopath, that is going to attack you no matter what you do, this never … Continue reading

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Human – Chiara Montaldo’s interview

Another interview clip from Yann Arthus-Bertrand’s film ‘Human’. This one feels especially relevant right now – something about engaging with reality, in place of story, and humanity, in place of ‘othering’. Here’s the short description for the ‘Human’ project/fim:- ‘What … Continue reading

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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading

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