Monthly Archives: March 2017

Helping my daughter become whom she is meant to be

Posted on March 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2012/06/helping-my-daughter-become-who-she-is-meant-to-be/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.handinhandparenting.org for this gorgeous and profound account of a mother supporting her 3 year old daughter through manifestations of distress, and thereby in dropping down into re-experiencing/processing and releasing birth trauma – with … Continue reading →

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‘Love After Love’ – Linton Kwesi Johnson’s tribute to Derek Wallcott

Posted on March 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thank you to Linton and Newsnight for this beautiful piece. Derek Wallcott died on Friday. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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The Invisible World – John O’Donohue

Posted on March 17, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

John O’Donohue’s work is of importance to the writer, hence his frequent appearance on this blog. This brief passage captures the tone and quality of his writing and way of being, which may help to explain that…. Here’s the text, … Continue reading →

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Ram Dass on the Witness

Posted on March 11, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The question we need to ask ourselves is whether there is any place we can stand in ourselves where we can look at all that’s happening around us without freaking out, where we can be quiet enough to hear our … Continue reading →

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‘All Together Now’ George Monbiot

Posted on March 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.monbiot.com/2017/02/09/all-together-now/ Click on the above link to visit George Monbiot’s own site for this article about how we might begin to restore community. Like George, we believe the antidote to our manifold ills as societies lies in connection, relationship and … Continue reading →

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When We Were Trees – Ivy Bourgon

Posted on March 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘there was a time, not so long ago, that we were trees. trust me, we were. we grew old very, very, very old we lived at the whim of the seasons with no control over our many appendages that would … Continue reading →

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‘Trump, Clinton and Trauma’ Gabor Maté

Posted on March 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Trump, Clinton and Trauma Click on the link above for this perceptive, accurate and topical article from Gabor from last October – before the U.S. presidential result – on trauma markers in our political leaders, and how levels of trauma … Continue reading →

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