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Be An Island – Tracy Cochran

Posted on August 31, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Be an Island Click on the above link to visit Tracy’s own site for this helpful piece, which we found through Parabola Magazine on Facebook. Some of the fundamentals around mindfulness practice, presence and gratitude. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter … Continue reading →

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Gil Bailie on the Crucifixion & Blame

Posted on April 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The surest way to miss the link between the cure (the crucifixion and its aftereffects) and the disease (the structures of scapegoating violence upon which all human social arrangements have depended) is to read the passion story with an eye … Continue reading →

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When We Were Trees – Ivy Bourgon

Posted on March 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘there was a time, not so long ago, that we were trees. trust me, we were. we grew old very, very, very old we lived at the whim of the seasons with no control over our many appendages that would … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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Send Forgiveness Viral – The Project

Posted on July 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Stop the outrage and #SendForgivenessViral | Written by Waleed Aly & Tom Whitty (@twhittyer) #TheProjectTV https://t.co/lMonyEhmB5 — #TheProjectTV (@theprojecttv) July 19, 2016 Forgiveness is a tricky word… The writer has often experienced working with a deeply traumatized human being who … Continue reading →

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Frederick Buechner on telling our secrets

Posted on May 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I have come to believe that by and large the human family all has the same secrets, which are both very telling and very important to tell. They are telling in the sense that they tell what is perhaps the … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on being received as we are

Posted on April 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer loved the Sigmund Freud quote…. Resonates with how we see therapy at this service, and the person-centred approach. Being received with love, just as we are right now, is such a powerful healing agent….. It seems a tragedy – when Sigmund Freud could … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Love – ‘Much has been said’

Posted on April 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beauty and depth, from David. Here’s the text, for those of our readers who have trouble seeing Facebook posts through the link:- “MUCH HAS BEEN SAID Much has been said about the eternal and untouchable nature of love, its tidal … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on when the ground falls away

Posted on March 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is noticing how hard, painful and confusing life is feeling for many in her world, both those she works with therapeutically and others – and how this is often her experience too at the moment. Lots of change and loss … Continue reading →

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To Go Beyond Thought – Karen Armstrong

Posted on February 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for a wonderful, wide-ranging piece by Karen, with gratitude to Parabola Magazine. Here’s a taste:- ‘When a child dies, we want a scientific explanation but that’s not all we need. We need some kind of … Continue reading →

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