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‘People (often) don’t need help. They need love. Acceptance’ Monica Cassani

Posted on June 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://beyondmeds.com/2017/06/10/people-dont-need-help/ Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s superb resource site: http://www.beyondmeds.com This post describes person-centred in a nutshell, and is what we seek to offer at this service: holding loving space for a person as they explore … Continue reading →

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Helping my daughter become whom she is meant to be

Posted on March 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2012/06/helping-my-daughter-become-who-she-is-meant-to-be/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.handinhandparenting.org for this gorgeous and profound account of a mother supporting her 3 year old daughter through manifestations of distress, and thereby in dropping down into re-experiencing/processing and releasing birth trauma – with … Continue reading →

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The Biggest Problem in Mental Health Treatment – Monica Cassani

Posted on January 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The biggest problem in mental health treatment Click on the above link to visit Monica’s extremely valuable resource base at http://www.beyondmeds.com for this post – which accords with how we make sense of our work at this service:- ‘The biggest problem … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on unfettered capitalism & coercive conformity

Posted on September 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The past two decades have witnessed unprecedented changes in the economic and political organisation of the world. We live, we are constantly told, in the era of globalisation, a euphemism for the triumph throughout the world of the so-called free … Continue reading →

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Seeking Sanctuary in Our Own Sacred Spaces – Parker J. Palmer

Posted on September 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.onbeing.org/blog/parker-palmer-seeking-sanctuary-in-our-own-sacred-spaces/8928 Click on the link to visit http://www.onbeing.org for this wonderful piece by Parker J Palmer on the importance of creating sanctuary in our lives, to support our doing what we can to survive in – and challenge – the … Continue reading →

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Henri Nouwen on friendship & shadow

Posted on March 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is a twilight zone in our hearts that we ourselves cannot see. Even when we know quite a lot about ourselves – our gifts and weaknesses, our ambitions and aspirations, our motives and our drives – large parts of … Continue reading →

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Contracting & suicidal thoughts, a person-centred perspective

Posted on March 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is the text of a recent email to our therapists on these themes. We are aware of the very different way in which these issues are addressed within the NHS/similar medicalized contexts in health and social care – and the extent to which … Continue reading →

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