Monthly Archives: November 2017

Too right it’s Black Friday: our relentless consumption is trashing the planet George Monbiot

Posted on November 28, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/nov/22/black-friday-consumption-killing-planet-growth? Click on the above link to visit the Guardian for this article by George Monbiot, to mark last week’s ‘Black Friday’. ‘When you hear that something makes economic sense, this means it makes the opposite of common sense. Those … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on our need to grieve

Posted on November 24, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every great loss demands that we choose life again. We need to grieve in order to do this. The pain we have not grieved over will always stand between us and life. When we don’t grieve, a part of us … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Joy (again)

Posted on November 17, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This piece is briefer than our previous post of David on Joy (which he posted when his daughter went to college). And these few words brought up an intense ‘Yes’ in the writer – who has come to feel the … Continue reading →

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Ram Dass on getting free & acknowledging interdependence

Posted on November 14, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I would say that the thrust of my life has been initially about getting free, and then realizing that my freedom is not independent of everybody else. Then I am arriving at that circle where one works on oneself as … Continue reading →

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Mirabai Starr in our inner worlds

Posted on November 10, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is a secret place. A radiant sanctuary. As real as your own kitchen. More real than that. Constructed of the purest elements. Overflowing with the ten thousand beautiful things. Worlds within worlds. Forests, rivers. Velvet coverlets thrown over featherbeds, … Continue reading →

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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on criticism of self/other

Posted on November 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves. As author and mythologist Joseph Campbell suggested, “‘What will they think of me?’ must be put aside for bliss.” … Continue reading →

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