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Toko-pa on Invitational presence

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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Why We’re Underestimating American Collapse – Umair Haque

Posted on February 1, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://eand.co/why-were-underestimating-american-collapse-be04d9e55235 Click on the above link to Eudaimonia’s site for this – perceptive, insightful and scarily accurate from where we are looking – piece by Umair Haque, on the cultural pathologies of the current US situation, and what this means … Continue reading →

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Criticism: Are you willing to take the hit? Toko-pa

Posted on August 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2017/08/21/criticism-are-you-willing-to-take-the-hit/ Click on the above link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this helpful reflective piece, on our ability to receive criticism, and distinguish between what has the potential to teach us and what is harmful. ‘…there are two major consequences … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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Keeping Quiet – Pablo Neruda

Posted on May 5, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Keeping Quiet ‘Now we will count to twelve and we will all keep still. For once on the face of the earth, let’s not speak in any language; let’s stop for one second, and not move our arms so much. … Continue reading →

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Gil Bailie on the Crucifixion & Blame

Posted on April 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The surest way to miss the link between the cure (the crucifixion and its aftereffects) and the disease (the structures of scapegoating violence upon which all human social arrangements have depended) is to read the passion story with an eye … Continue reading →

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The Invisible World – John O’Donohue

Posted on March 17, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

John O’Donohue’s work is of importance to the writer, hence his frequent appearance on this blog. This brief passage captures the tone and quality of his writing and way of being, which may help to explain that…. Here’s the text, … Continue reading →

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Being with my grief for the world – Justine Corrie

Posted on December 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for this timely and resonant post on Facebook by Justine. Here’s the text for those who have trouble reading Facebook links:- ‘Witnessing events and devastating suffering unfolding in Syria this week, exposure of yet more … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on Grief, Praise, Love & Presence

Posted on December 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text for those who have difficulty following Facebook links:- ‘I wrote this a few years ago: Spiritual teachers, philosophers and some psychotherapists tell us that it is beneficial to live in the present moment, that ultimately only the … Continue reading →

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