Monthly Archives: March 2015

The Hope Chest: The writing on the wall – Kim Johancen-Walt

Posted on March 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://ct.counseling.org/2015/03/the-hope-chest-the-writing-on-the-wall/ Interesting couple of case studies with Kim’s thoughts, from Counseling Today, a publication of The American Counseling Association. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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Monica Lewinsky – The Price of Shame

Posted on March 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is wonderful. Thank you to Sarah Birdsall on Facebook for drawing it to our attention. Deeply thought-provoking, intelligent, heartfelt and moving – an inspiring example of someone who has taken their own horrible experience and transmuted it with courage … Continue reading →

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James Hillman on The Daimon

Posted on March 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Each life is formed by its unique image, an image that is the essence of that life and calls it to a destiny. As the force of fate, this image acts as a personal daimon, an accompanying guide who remembers … Continue reading →

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The monsters of our minds – Anon (via berlin-artparasites)

Posted on March 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

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Everything is a Mirror (until it’s Not) – Toko-pa

Posted on March 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2015/03/23/mirror/ Powerful post on how valuable and important it is that we can inhabit our ‘no’, alongside our capacities for self reflection and loving kindness. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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‘Head Garden: A Lyrical Animated Film by Lilli Carré’ by Maria Popova

Posted on March 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.brainpickings.org/2013/01/14/head-garden-lilli-carre/ Another lovely post from Maria Popova on brainpickings, featuring the work of Lilli Carré (whom the writer had not previously encountered). Not sure about the last line – seems like most of us ‘lose our heads’ more than once….and … Continue reading →

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Marcel Proust on what to do with suffering

Posted on March 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Eclipse Tree’ We are healed of a suffering only by experiencing it to the full. Marcel Proust Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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Jason Hine on Who knows what should happen?

Posted on March 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The following is a post from Jason’s Facebook page:- https://www.facebook.com/jason.hine1 Gratitude to him for allowing us to repost it here. ‘Who knows what should happen at any given moment? If a conflict resolution process involving ’empathic listening’ such as non-violent … Continue reading →

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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Does Not Exist – Jay Watts

Posted on March 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.madinamerica.com/2015/03/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-not-exist/ Interesting, politically savvy post by Jay Watts on the Mad in America site. Just as relevant here…. ‘By conflating a number of vastly divergent approaches with strikingly different ideas of what it means to be human and to suffer, … Continue reading →

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Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch – Mark Greene

Posted on March 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-touch-isolation-how-homophobia-has-robbed-men-of-touch/ Intelligent and humane article from Mark Greene via http://www.goodmenproject.com. In the writer’s view, this is a cultural issue going beyond touch between men, and issues around sexual identity or homophobia – huge as these are. As Mark acknowledges, our … Continue reading →

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