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Seeking Sanctuary in Our Own Sacred Spaces – Parker J. Palmer

Posted on September 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.onbeing.org/blog/parker-palmer-seeking-sanctuary-in-our-own-sacred-spaces/8928 Click on the link to visit http://www.onbeing.org for this wonderful piece by Parker J Palmer on the importance of creating sanctuary in our lives, to support our doing what we can to survive in – and challenge – the … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

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Disorderly Conduct – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on May 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://charleseisenstein.net/disorderly-conduct/ Magnificent piece by Charles Eisenstein. Charles transmutes a painful personal experience into a beautiful exposition of the cultural and psychological issues it raises:- ‘the presumption that legally constituted authority should decide what is an acceptable level of safety for oneself … Continue reading →

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Touch Isolation: How Homophobia Has Robbed All Men Of Touch – Mark Greene

Posted on March 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-touch-isolation-how-homophobia-has-robbed-men-of-touch/ Intelligent and humane article from Mark Greene via http://www.goodmenproject.com. In the writer’s view, this is a cultural issue going beyond touch between men, and issues around sexual identity or homophobia – huge as these are. As Mark acknowledges, our … Continue reading →

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Your Sexuality: Ask & Tell: Alyssa Royse at TEDxRainier

Posted on August 15, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Forthright and sensible TED talk from Alyssa, making some valuable points about sexuality and the toxicity of sexual shame, backed up with a few hard-hitting statistics. She defines ‘sex’ as ‘a consensual act between adults, and gives focus to consent … Continue reading →

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Get REAL & challenging/moving beyond homophobia

Posted on April 11, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thank you to The Good Men Project on Twitter for this useful link to an article about Get REAL’s work at U.S. college level contributing to ‘unlearning homophobia and embracing everyone’. http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/frat-soro-against-homophobia-jvinc/?utm_content=buffer4dba9&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer Clearly this has a U.S. cultural context and … Continue reading →

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