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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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The Ecology of Language – Abbie Simmonds

Posted on November 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://dark-mountain.net/blog/the-ecology-of-language/ Fascinating piece by Abbie, about the ways in which language holds and shapes (or can limit/reduce) meaning, personally, collectively, spiritually – and has the power to connect us with our embodied experiencing and with the land. She quotes Wade Davis:- … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on Addiction, change & relationship with someone who is addicted

Posted on October 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘To live with an addict of any kind is frustrating, emotionally painful and often infuriating. Family, friends and spouse may feel they are dealing with a double personality: one sane and lovable, the other devious and uncaring. They believe the … Continue reading →

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The Disrobed Monk Who Provides Safe Haven to 85 Children – Joan Duncan Oliver

Posted on August 17, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer was feeling in need of some loveliness and encouragement today, and went looking (thank you, Gina Belton and the Society for Humanistic Psychology, Division 32 on Facebook). There is a lot that is toxic in the world, a … Continue reading →

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The Hope Chest: The writing on the wall – Kim Johancen-Walt

Posted on March 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://ct.counseling.org/2015/03/the-hope-chest-the-writing-on-the-wall/ Interesting couple of case studies with Kim’s thoughts, from Counseling Today, a publication of The American Counseling Association. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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