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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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TED: Bhutan’s Prime Minister Tshering Tobgay

Posted on April 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is an inspirational 19 minutes. Politicians are not all cut from the same cloth…. No matter who we are, how big or small, we have choices about the values we live by and we can make a difference. This is … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown: Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count

Posted on November 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another useful talk from Brené Brown, which explores creativity, criticism and how she has learned to deal with it. She talks about how important it is that those of us she calls the ‘sweaty creatives’ – or, borrowing from Theodore Roosevelt’s famous words, … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Heartbreak

Posted on October 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘…heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average life…’ Beautiful, moving, elegiac reflections from David on the meaning and hidden treasures of heartbreak. The writer believes we have an unhelpful cultural tendency … Continue reading →

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Contact Improvisation

Posted on September 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer does quite a lot of conscious dance (or movement meditation). Contact improvisation is one form with which she is less familiar. As she understands it, the idea is that the dancers remain in more or less constant … Continue reading →

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Alice Goffman: How we’re priming some kids for college — and others for prison

Posted on June 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

U.S. focused, and the phenomenon is a more extreme one there – but nonetheless, many of the points Alice makes apply here too, increasingly. In the UK, we imprison around 150 of our citizens for each 100,000, the vast majority … Continue reading →

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Boyan Slat on Cleaning the Oceans – Amateo Ra

Posted on April 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.spiritscienceandmetaphysics.com/the-20-year-old-who-plans-to-remove-all-plastic-from-the-ocean/ This might at first glance seem an odd post for a therapy service. However, Boyan Slat’s vision and work seemed to us profoundly inspiring and empowering – an example of one person finding ways to manifest his ethics, passion … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky – The Price of Shame

Posted on March 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is wonderful. Thank you to Sarah Birdsall on Facebook for drawing it to our attention. Deeply thought-provoking, intelligent, heartfelt and moving – an inspiring example of someone who has taken their own horrible experience and transmuted it with courage … Continue reading →

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The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power: Gabor Maté at TEDxRio+20

Posted on October 27, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another wonderful talk from Gabor Maté, this time coming in at a little under 19 minutes. We think he’s bang on, both in terms of what he says about addiction and in terms of the wider implications of this for … Continue reading →

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