Category Archives: congruence

Mark Nepo on presence and directness

Posted on October 10, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We waste so much energy trying to cover up who we are when beneath every attitude is the want to be loved, and beneath every anger is a wound to be healed and beneath every sadness is the fear that … Continue reading →

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Parker J. Palmer on Integrity and wholeness

Posted on October 11, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“By choosing integrity, I become more whole, but wholeness does not mean perfection. It means becoming more real by acknowledging the whole of who I am.” Parker J Palmer – The Courage to Teach: Exploring the Inner Landscape of a … Continue reading →

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Posted on September 10, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if … Continue reading →

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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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Your True Home – John O’Donohue

Posted on January 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit John O’Donohue’s page on Facebook for this beautiful meditation. We are struck that his conclusion is the same as Carl Rogers – when we are able to come home to ourselves and be … Continue reading →

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I’m a Therapist, But I’m Not Your Therapist – Kathleen Smith

Posted on December 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thecut.com/2017/12/therapist-friends-ask-for-advice.html?utm_campaign=sou&utm_source=fb&utm_medium=s1 Click on the link above for Kathleen’s thoughtful and perceptive piece…. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Dreamspeak: Tiny Acorn; Mighty Oak – Toko-pa

Posted on October 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2007/08/17/dreamspeak-tiny-acorn-mighty-oak/ Click on the link above to visit Toko-pa’s site for this beautiful and important piece on the personal and collective significance of dreaming, the ‘daimon’ and creativity in its widest sense:- ‘The daimon is in your goosebumps and sudden … Continue reading →

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Howard Thurman on the sound of the genuine within

Posted on September 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of … Continue reading →

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer – The Invitation

Posted on September 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to … Continue reading →

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Criticism: Are you willing to take the hit? Toko-pa

Posted on August 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2017/08/21/criticism-are-you-willing-to-take-the-hit/ Click on the above link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this helpful reflective piece, on our ability to receive criticism, and distinguish between what has the potential to teach us and what is harmful. ‘…there are two major consequences … Continue reading →

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