Category Archives: congruence

Parker J. Palmer on Integrity and wholeness

“By choosing integrity, I become more whole, but wholeness does not mean perfection. It means becoming more real by acknowledging the whole of who I am.” Parker J Palmer – The Courage to Teach: Exploring the Inner Landscape of a … Continue reading

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if … Continue reading

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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.”  Thich Nhat Hanh  This feels wholly … Continue reading

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Your True Home – John O’Donohue

Click on the above link to visit John O’Donohue’s page on Facebook for this beautiful meditation. We are struck that his conclusion is the same as Carl Rogers – when we are able to come home to ourselves and be … Continue reading

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I’m a Therapist, But I’m Not Your Therapist – Kathleen Smith

https://www.thecut.com/2017/12/therapist-friends-ask-for-advice.html?utm_campaign=sou&utm_source=fb&utm_medium=s1 Click on the link above for Kathleen’s thoughtful and perceptive piece…. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Dreamspeak: Tiny Acorn; Mighty Oak – Toko-pa

http://toko-pa.com/2007/08/17/dreamspeak-tiny-acorn-mighty-oak/ Click on the link above to visit Toko-pa’s site for this beautiful and important piece on the personal and collective significance of dreaming, the ‘daimon’ and creativity in its widest sense:- ‘The daimon is in your goosebumps and sudden … Continue reading

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Howard Thurman on the sound of the genuine within

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of … Continue reading

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