Category Archives: sexual violence

My Name Is Anneke Lucas & I Was a Sex Slave to Europe’s Elite at Age 6

https://www.globalcitizen.org/content/anneke-lucass-harrowing-tale-of-sex-trafficking-am/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=global&utm_campaign=general-content&linkId=32537951 Click on the above link for this painful and harrowing – also wonderful – piece from Anneke. This piece is remarkable in so many ways: for the fact that a human being – a child – can survive such … Continue reading

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading

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Brian Thorne on belovedness, sexuality & power in therapy

In the passage before this excerpt, Brian has been talking about the idea of the ‘beloved’, in the context of the writings of Julian of Norwich. How any of us makes sense of ‘beloved’ will depend on personal experiences and conceptual structures/language. It is an … Continue reading

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John Bradshaw on the process of alienation

‘A child is born self-connected and has an organismic sense of wholeness with relation to each of its powers, drives, and needs. Once a power, drive, or need is shamed, it becomes disconnected. As the shaming continues and intensifies, the … Continue reading

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Deeyah Khan ‘Women Are Part of the Solution to Extremism’

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/deeyah-khan/muslim-extremism-women_b_8251832.html?utm_hp_ref=uk&ncid=tweetlnkushpmg00000067 Interesting, useful article by Deeyah. The writer (who is a woman) takes a reflective approach to posting pieces with a gendered approach. This is because her own sense is that the underlying issues in our cultures are about human … Continue reading

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Mia Leijssen on Working with the Inner Critic

Interesting excerpt from Mia’s essay on Focusing, in this excellent book edited by Brian Thorne and Elke Lambers. Mia looks at working with someone who experiences interruptions from the ‘bad parent’/superego voice. She follows this with a brief illustrative case … Continue reading

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It’s up to us

The writer has at times this week been unable to see much else when she closes her eyes, but images of drowned children… Clearly she is not alone in that. One possible response is despair, powerlessness, inducing a slide into … Continue reading

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