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My Name Is Anneke Lucas & I Was a Sex Slave to Europe’s Elite at Age 6

Posted on December 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalcitizen.org/content/anneke-lucass-harrowing-tale-of-sex-trafficking-am/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=global&utm_campaign=general-content&linkId=32537951 Click on the above link for this painful and harrowing – also wonderful – piece from Anneke. This piece is remarkable in so many ways: for the fact that a human being – a child – can survive such … Continue reading →

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Brian Thorne on belovedness, sexuality & power in therapy

Posted on May 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

In the passage before this excerpt, Brian has been talking about the idea of the ‘beloved’, in the context of the writings of Julian of Norwich. How any of us makes sense of ‘beloved’ will depend on personal experiences and conceptual structures/language. It is an … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on the process of alienation

Posted on November 8, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘A child is born self-connected and has an organismic sense of wholeness with relation to each of its powers, drives, and needs. Once a power, drive, or need is shamed, it becomes disconnected. As the shaming continues and intensifies, the … Continue reading →

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Deeyah Khan ‘Women Are Part of the Solution to Extremism’

Posted on October 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/deeyah-khan/muslim-extremism-women_b_8251832.html?utm_hp_ref=uk&ncid=tweetlnkushpmg00000067 Interesting, useful article by Deeyah. The writer (who is a woman) takes a reflective approach to posting pieces with a gendered approach. This is because her own sense is that the underlying issues in our cultures are about human … Continue reading →

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Mia Leijssen on Working with the Inner Critic

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting excerpt from Mia’s essay on Focusing, in this excellent book edited by Brian Thorne and Elke Lambers. Mia looks at working with someone who experiences interruptions from the ‘bad parent’/superego voice. She follows this with a brief illustrative case … Continue reading →

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It’s up to us

Posted on September 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer has at times this week been unable to see much else when she closes her eyes, but images of drowned children… Clearly she is not alone in that. One possible response is despair, powerlessness, inducing a slide into … Continue reading →

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Will Hall on Marijuana

Posted on August 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2015/08/26/marijuana-for-mental-health/ Wide-ranging, intelligent, balanced and informed contribution to the cannabis debate by Will – whose writing is consistently of high quality. The writer has no agenda about what drugs other competent adult human beings do/don’t decide to take – but … Continue reading →

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Eyes Open by Jess Davies

Posted on May 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://iamnotasilentpoet.wordpress.com/2015/05/20/eyes-open-by-jess-davies/ Click on the link for this powerful and moving poem about sexual experiencing, written and spoken by Jess Davies. Thank you to Jess, Reuben Woolley and ‘I am not a silent poet’ on Facebook and WordPress. Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Consent – Sex and Tea

Posted on May 13, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is cool. Consent explained in terms of having a cup of tea. It’s less than 3 minutes long, amusing, and deftly makes the relevant points. Seems like a useful resource in a school context…. Thank you to the following … Continue reading →

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