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Toko-pa on Invitational presence

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on empathy, compassion and boundaries

Posted on March 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Empathy: if you have done your work and set your boundaries, you can tread that water forever and not get tired. Amen’. Yes. Empathy in the sense Brené is exploring does not deplete us, nor does it sit with our … Continue reading →

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HUMAN: Kindness can come from anywhere

Posted on January 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘What magic, this out-stretched hand. Like sparks of light in what we call human folly.’ Watched this with tears. Here’s the short description for the ‘Human’ project/fim:- ‘What is it that makes us human? Is it that we love, that … Continue reading →

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‘What happened when I confronted my cruellest troll’ Lindy West

Posted on January 9, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/feb/02/what-happened-confronted-cruellest-troll-lindy-west?CMP=share_btn_tw Interesting piece by Lindy. From where we are looking, online/media bullying is one of the uglier of the many ugly aspects of our current culture. The writer finds shocking and bewildering some people’s willingness to make and express judgements … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa on listening with presence

Posted on December 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The heart of person-centred… Beautiful artwork too. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Steve Silberman on Hans Asperger

Posted on December 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hans Asperger was born in 1906 in Austria-Hungary, and died in 1980. It was only after his death that his work began to be better known. He worked with – especially – children who would now attract the diagnosis that bears … Continue reading →

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Human – Francine Christophe

Posted on November 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

An excerpt from Yann Arthus-Bertrand’s remarkable film, ‘Human’. It speaks for itself. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to … Continue reading →

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