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Henry Beston on our concept of animals

Posted on May 8, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We need another and a wiser and perhaps a more mystical concept of animals. For the animal shall not be measured by man. In a world older and more complete than ours they move finished and complete, gifted with extensions … Continue reading →

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Linda Graham on Forgiveness

Posted on February 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Forgiveness does not mean condoning, pardoning, forgetting, false reconciliation, appeasement, or sentimentality. It is a practice, daily and lifelong, of cultivating our own inner peace and wisdom that allows us to see that our pain is part of the pain … Continue reading →

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A Counsel of Resistance & Delight in the Face of Fear – Martin Shaw

Posted on February 8, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://medium.com/@schoolofmyth/a-counsel-of-resistance-and-delight-in-the-face-of-fear-91ddb91dc415 Please click on the above for this piece on http://www.medium.com from local storyteller, Martin Shaw. It feels like one of the most important and resonant things the writer of this blog has seen in the last few months. A … Continue reading →

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Why We’re Underestimating American Collapse – Umair Haque

Posted on February 1, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://eand.co/why-were-underestimating-american-collapse-be04d9e55235 Click on the above link to Eudaimonia’s site for this – perceptive, insightful and scarily accurate from where we are looking – piece by Umair Haque, on the cultural pathologies of the current US situation, and what this means … Continue reading →

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Alice Walker’s Beatitudes

Posted on September 8, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“HELPED are those who are content to be themselves; they will never lack mystery in their lives and the joys of self-discovery will be constant. HELPED are those who love the entire cosmos rather than their own tiny country, city, … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on Responding to current challenges

Posted on August 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

More compassion and wisdom from Anne Lamott, for our U.S. readers, and all of us feeling fear and grief about some of what is happening in our world. Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Criticism: Are you willing to take the hit? Toko-pa

Posted on August 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2017/08/21/criticism-are-you-willing-to-take-the-hit/ Click on the above link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this helpful reflective piece, on our ability to receive criticism, and distinguish between what has the potential to teach us and what is harmful. ‘…there are two major consequences … Continue reading →

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What Chester Bennington’s death tells us about mental health awareness

Posted on July 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://doctorgoatblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/22/what-chester-benningtons-death-tells-us-about-mental-health-awareness/ Click on the link above for this wise, heartful post by an anonymous blogger who identifies as Dr Goat. This expresses much of how we make sense of human distress at this service. There is (for example) no evidence … Continue reading →

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Alex’s Story: Living With Disabilities Under ‘Austerity’

Posted on June 5, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hard to watch this, how much harder to live it…. ‘I have been left in a really humiliating and degrading state. And I hate living like this. I hate living like this.’ No-one should have to live like this. ‘I … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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