Category Archives: relationship

Brené Brown on asking for help

Posted on June 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on “going it alone.” Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very … Continue reading →

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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Keeping Quiet – Pablo Neruda

Posted on May 5, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Keeping Quiet ‘Now we will count to twelve and we will all keep still. For once on the face of the earth, let’s not speak in any language; let’s stop for one second, and not move our arms so much. … Continue reading →

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Helping my daughter become whom she is meant to be

Posted on March 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/2012/06/helping-my-daughter-become-who-she-is-meant-to-be/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.handinhandparenting.org for this gorgeous and profound account of a mother supporting her 3 year old daughter through manifestations of distress, and thereby in dropping down into re-experiencing/processing and releasing birth trauma – with … Continue reading →

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‘All Together Now’ George Monbiot

Posted on March 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.monbiot.com/2017/02/09/all-together-now/ Click on the above link to visit George Monbiot’s own site for this article about how we might begin to restore community. Like George, we believe the antidote to our manifold ills as societies lies in connection, relationship and … Continue reading →

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A ‘white guy’s’ perspective on narratives about white colonialism, feminism & stuff – Micah Ingle

Posted on February 16, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to visit Micah’s Facebook page for this post – which resonated strongly with the writer. Micah has featured here before. He is a Texan psychologist and counsellor. We experience him as heartful and wise. Here, it’s … Continue reading →

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‘The Poet and the Shepherd’ by Joshua Boettiger

Posted on February 10, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/01/31/the-poet-and-the-shepherd-by-joshua-boettiger/ Click on the link to visit Parabola Magazine for this astonishing article by Joshua Boettiger:- ‘We could say the search for meaning – which is a holy search – becomes imperiled whenever the poet-self and the shepherd-self are out … Continue reading →

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