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Criticism: Are you willing to take the hit? Toko-pa

Posted on August 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2017/08/21/criticism-are-you-willing-to-take-the-hit/ Click on the above link to visit Toko-pa’s site for this helpful reflective piece, on our ability to receive criticism, and distinguish between what has the potential to teach us and what is harmful. ‘…there are two major consequences … Continue reading →

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Kristina Kuzmic on valuing & offering our gifts

Posted on July 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We like this. There’s a lot of positivity/law of attraction stuff around which seems unhelpful or even toxic – implying that, of we cannot feel better or improve our lives, we are somehow deficient or not trying hard enough … Continue reading →

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Duet – Amy Yakima & Travis Wall

Posted on July 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Worldwidedance on Facebook, for this beautiful, expressive pair dance by Amy and Travis, about connection and sexual relationship. Travis also did the choreography for this piece. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling … Continue reading →

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What Chester Bennington’s death tells us about mental health awareness

Posted on July 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://doctorgoatblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/22/what-chester-benningtons-death-tells-us-about-mental-health-awareness/ Click on the link above for this wise, heartful post by an anonymous blogger who identifies as Dr Goat. This expresses much of how we make sense of human distress at this service. There is (for example) no evidence … Continue reading →

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5 things I wish you knew before euthanizing your dog – Kelsey Beth Carpenter

Posted on July 13, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://pupjournal.com/5-things-wish-knew-euthanizing/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=pj-share Click on the above link for this reflective, kind, helpful piece on a difficult theme by a veterinary technician. The writer of this post has seen many beloved creatures on their final journeys, and resonated with these comments, whether … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on asking for help

Posted on June 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on “going it alone.” Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very … Continue reading →

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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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