Category Archives: sadness & pain

Heavy – Mary Oliver

Deeply sad to hear of the death of Mary Oliver, who has accompanied many of us over the sunlit grasslands and through the tight ravines. Gratitude for all she offers, and to Vera de Chalambert on Facebook for reminding us … Continue reading

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Maya Luna, on staying with….

Beautiful, accurate poem from Maya’s Facebook page. Here are the words, for anyone who has difficulty reading FB links:- “If you cannot help me If you cannot heal me  If you cannot solve  My problem  Will you stay anyways?  Just … Continue reading

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Thanks by W.S. Merwin

“Listen with the night falling we are saying thank you we are stopping on the bridges to bow from the railings we are running out of the glass rooms with our mouths full of food to look at the sky … Continue reading

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A Poem for the Blue Heron – Mary Oliver

A Poem for the Blue Heron     1 Now the blue heron wades the cold ponds of November. In the gray light his hunched shoulders are also gray. He finds scant food – a few numbed breathers under a rind … Continue reading

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if … Continue reading

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Reasons not to use ‘timeouts’ or ‘naughty steps’

Useful short film, explaining how ‘timeout’ or the ‘naughty step’ harm your relationship with your child and damage their ability to connect helpfully with their feelings and with you. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Joanna Macy on the effects of refusing to feel

“The refusal to feel takes a heavy toll. Not only is there an impoverishment of our emotional and sensory life, flowers are dimmer and less fragrant, our loves less ecstatic, but this psychic numbing also impedes our capacity to process … Continue reading

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