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Michael Leunig on 7 Types of Ordinary Happiness

Posted on August 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thanks to Tara (and Sido) for this. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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I am not your fault – Charlotte Eriksson

Posted on December 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“So I am not a broken heart. I am not the weight I lost or miles or ran and I am not the way I slept on my doorstep under the bare sky in smell of tears and whiskey because … Continue reading →

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What Taking Care of Yourself Really Means – Elizabeth Gilbert

Posted on August 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Elizabeth-Gilbert-Practical-Ways-To-Practice-Self-Care?FB=fb_sss_gilbert_self_care Click on the link above for this vitally important and approachable piece by Liz Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’) on how to make sense of the – so difficult for so many – idea of loving yourself:- … Continue reading →

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Thomas Merton on love & empathy

Posted on August 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“To love another as a person we must begin by granting him his own autonomy and identity as a person. We have to love him for what he is in himself, and not for what he is to us. We … Continue reading →

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Twice Blessed – David Whyte

Posted on June 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text, for those who cannot readily read Facebook links:- ‘TWICE BLESSED So that I stopped there and looked into the sun, seeing not only my reflected face but the great sky that framed my lonely figure and after … Continue reading →

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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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‘Ruby’ Emma Allen

Posted on May 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Fascinating and deep creative journey by body artist Emma Allen into the landscape of reincarnation. She describes it:- ‘An animated self-portrait exploring the idea of rebirth and illustrating the transfer of energy from one incarnation to another. I painted this stop … Continue reading →

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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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To Go Beyond Thought – Karen Armstrong

Posted on February 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for a wonderful, wide-ranging piece by Karen, with gratitude to Parabola Magazine. Here’s a taste:- ‘When a child dies, we want a scientific explanation but that’s not all we need. We need some kind of … Continue reading →

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