Category Archives: acceptance

Toko-pa Turner – False belonging & conditionality

“Our longing for community and purpose is so powerful that it can drive us to join groups, relationships, or systems of belief that, to our diminished or divided self, give the false impression of belonging. But places of false belonging … Continue reading

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Maya Luna, on staying with….

Beautiful, accurate poem from Maya’s Facebook page. Here are the words, for anyone who has difficulty reading FB links:- “If you cannot help me If you cannot heal me  If you cannot solve  My problem  Will you stay anyways?  Just … Continue reading

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if … Continue reading

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Marion Woodman on Growth

“There is no growth without real feeling. Children not loved for who they are do not learn how to love themselves. Their growth is an exercise in pleasing others, not in expanding through experience. As adults, they must learn to … Continue reading

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Nayyirah Waheed on loving ourselves

“If someone does not want me, it is not the end of the world. But if I do not want me, the world is nothing but endings.” Nayyirah Waheed Yes, yes, yes. The core of therapy is about coming home … Continue reading

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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading

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What about when meditation doesn’t help with anxiety?

http://www.nondualtherapy.life/2018/01/28/q-what-about-when-meditation-doesnt-help-with-anxiety/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.nondualtherapy.life for this helpful response to a reader’s question. Our experience is that very often people’s understanding of what meditation or mindfulness offers, is distorted and misses the heart of the practice … Continue reading

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