Monthly Archives: September 2015

George Monbiot – Why I ate a roadkill squirrel

Posted on September 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/environment/2015/aug/27/why-i-ate-a-roadkill-squirrel ‘….it seems to me that some people have confused what is customary with what is ethical.’ Challenging, thought-provoking piece from George, well worth a read. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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David Whyte – Time Left Alone

Posted on September 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful and profound. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Person-centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on building trust via the core conditions

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The second in our occasional series of refreshers in some of the fundamentals of a person-centred approach to therapeutic work. The following examples from Dave and Brian cluster around the central theme of building trust, and which core conditions may … Continue reading →

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Thousands of children are being medicated for ADHD – when the condition may not even exist – Will Sutcliffe

Posted on September 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/thousands-of-children-are-being-medicated-for-adhd–when-the-condition-may-not-even-exist-10509842.html Thoughtful and useful article by Will about the ‘ADHD’ label, its implications and consequences. The writer too believes the exponential increase in diagnosis and drug treatment makes sense in political and financial terms, rather than in terms of the … Continue reading →

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Joan Armatrading – Willow

Posted on September 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It’s been a while since we posted some music…. This is beautiful. We all need a willow. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Thomas Merton on where to focus in our working

Posted on September 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Do not depend on the hope of results. You may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you … Continue reading →

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For Equilibrium – John O’Donohue

Posted on September 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

John O’Donohue described a blessing as ‘a circle of light drawn around a person to protect, heal and strengthen’. This one is for equilibrium – our sense is many of us stand in need of this just at present…. ‘A … Continue reading →

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Reclaiming Sweet Freedom – 23 things that we need not explain justify or defend – Isabel Abbott

Posted on September 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/09/reclaiming-sweet-freedom-23-things-that-we-need-not-explain-justify-or-defend/ Just gorgeous. This is written from the woman’s perspective, and the writer wants to expand it to include all of us (with any tweaks required to find the right fit for you). It’s wonderful, profound, poetic and important. Thanks, … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on cultural beliefs

Posted on September 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“…there is considerably less violence in cultures where people think in terms of human needs than in cultures where people label one another as “good” or “bad” and believe that the “bad” ones deserve to be punished.” Marshall B. Rosenberg, … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Listening to the whole person

Posted on September 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is is the first of an occasional series we are launching, refreshing some basics of person-centred theory. We are beginning with Janet Tolan, on the importance of affording the core conditions to self-structure. ‘Listening to the whole person One … Continue reading →

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