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James O’Dea on peacebuilding

Posted on February 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Those who recognize our essential qualities are the true peacebuilders: they let us know that they see the significance of our lives. Meanness of spirit stems from a place of neglect and the absence of nurturance and love. When we … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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Gabrielle Roth, 1941-2012: Disciple of the Deep Dark Divine – Eliezer Sobel

Posted on October 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-99th-monkey/201310/gabrielle-roth-1941-2012-disciple-the-deep-dark-divine ‘You didn’t really think this was about dancing, did you?’ This is the follow up to yesterday’s short film showing 5 Rhythms dance, a wonderful article by Eliezer about Gabrielle Roth, the movement’s founder. There is a lot in … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on building trust via the core conditions

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The second in our occasional series of refreshers in some of the fundamentals of a person-centred approach to therapeutic work. The following examples from Dave and Brian cluster around the central theme of building trust, and which core conditions may … Continue reading →

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Thousands of children are being medicated for ADHD – when the condition may not even exist – Will Sutcliffe

Posted on September 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/thousands-of-children-are-being-medicated-for-adhd–when-the-condition-may-not-even-exist-10509842.html Thoughtful and useful article by Will about the ‘ADHD’ label, its implications and consequences. The writer too believes the exponential increase in diagnosis and drug treatment makes sense in political and financial terms, rather than in terms of the … Continue reading →

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