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There is nothing wrong with you

Posted on October 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/07/06/there-is-nothing-wrong/ Very helpful post, as so often, from Monica Cassani’s rich collection of resources, links, articles and reflections: http://www.beyondmeds.com Monica’s body of work is invaluable to anyone engaging with what it is to be human, anyone working in our own … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Labels

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The third in our occasional series of some person-centred fundamentals. ‘There are many ways of describing people who use services such as housing, education and health. Some of these are also used of counselling clients: this client is “manipulative”, that … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Listening to the whole person

Posted on September 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is is the first of an occasional series we are launching, refreshing some basics of person-centred theory. We are beginning with Janet Tolan, on the importance of affording the core conditions to self-structure. ‘Listening to the whole person One … Continue reading →

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When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading →

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