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‘In the bleakness of the Calais migrant camp, a light shines out’ Jonathan Freedland

Posted on January 28, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/dec/25/calais-migrant-camp-refugees?CMP=fb_gu The writer has been watching the refugee crisis and the Calais situation with a similar mix of anger, despair and hope. It seems ever more futile to look to elected governments for ethics or humanity or any interest in the … Continue reading →

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Rainer Maria Rilke on Solitude

Posted on January 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Therefore, dear Sir, love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away… and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast. And … Continue reading →

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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Why Does Mainstream Psychiatry Fear a Balanced Understanding of Psychosis? Ron Unger

Posted on November 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://recoveryfromschizophrenia.org/2015/11/why-does-mainstream-psychiatry-fear-a-balanced-understanding-of-psychosis/#more-1682 Useful, interesting article on the BPS Report, ‘Understanding Psychosis and Schizophrenia’ and the mainstream psychiatric response. Thanks, Ron. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

Posted on November 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Listening to the whole person

Posted on September 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is is the first of an occasional series we are launching, refreshing some basics of person-centred theory. We are beginning with Janet Tolan, on the importance of affording the core conditions to self-structure. ‘Listening to the whole person One … Continue reading →

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This Is What A Suicidal Crisis Looks Like From The Inside – Alaina Mabaso

Posted on September 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.depressionarmy.com/ourblog/2015/8/2/this-is-what-a-suicidal-crisis-looks-like-from-the-inside Very powerful piece by Alaina, for which many thanks. I know this landscape of bleak despair, and the urge to die. Since I was a teenager, I have visited it from time to time. During my training as a … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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Human Despair – Dr Gabor Maté

Posted on June 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Gabor talking about human nature, and our cultures. Compelling, moving and accurate. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Gabor Maté – Toxic Culture, Bioneers Conference 2012

Posted on May 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The birth and death of any phenomena is connected to the birth and death of all other phenomena. The one contains the many, and the many contains the one.’ The Buddha Insightful talk that the ever-watchable Gabor Maté gave at … Continue reading →

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