Monthly Archives: July 2016

Chögyam Trungpa on life’s rhythms

Posted on July 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There are times to cultivate and create, when you nurture your world and give birth to new ideas and ventures. There are times of flourishing and abundance, when life feels in full bloom, energized and expanding. And there are times … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on creativity & the struggle to find self

Posted on July 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We found this simultaneously distressing and hopeful. Distressing, in terms of the punitive ‘criminal justice’ systems both here and in the U.S., which further disempower, traumatize and dehumanize people who already have a damaging bed rock of those life experiences … Continue reading →

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Wetiko: Energy, Domination and Human Societies – Martin Kirk

Posted on July 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Wetiko: Energy, Domination and Human Societies This forms part of series of posts about cultural questions, and paradigm shift. Click on the link for Martin’s fascinating article. ‘Wetiko’ is an indigenous term, used in this context to refer to modern … Continue reading →

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Sogyal Rinpoche on the stranger within

Posted on July 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Perhaps the deepest reason why we are afraid of death is because we do not know who we are. We believe in a personal, unique, and separate identity — but if we dare to examine it, we find that this … Continue reading →

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Send Forgiveness Viral – The Project

Posted on July 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Stop the outrage and #SendForgivenessViral | Written by Waleed Aly & Tom Whitty (@twhittyer) #TheProjectTV https://t.co/lMonyEhmB5 — #TheProjectTV (@theprojecttv) July 19, 2016 Forgiveness is a tricky word… The writer has often experienced working with a deeply traumatized human being who … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott – Love is sovereign here

Posted on July 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have a bit of a theme this week around how helpfully to respond to the violence and craziness in our world, our fear and sense of powerlessness in the face of all that, and our own more difficult feelings. Follow … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön: What to Do When You Lose It Completely

Posted on July 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Just under 3 minutes of gold from Pema. What she suggests is a pause, a directing of the attention inwards, rather than into an/another explosion outwards of resentment or aggression. The purpose is an opening and a softening, to self … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on art, complexity & ambiguity

Posted on July 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This extract is from a recent acquisition to the library here, ‘The Hope of Therapy’ by Paul Gordon. He describes it as “an argument for… therapeutic freedom” as an essential element of creativity. His premise is that therapy cannot meaningfully be reduced to techniques, … Continue reading →

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On Becoming a Beautiful Mind – John O’Donohue

Posted on July 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Art Of Developing A Beautiful Mind Follow the link for this brief and poignant summary of a talk that John intended to give in Canada in 2008 – had death not intervened. It seems to sum up some of the essence … Continue reading →

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White Fragility: Why it’s hard to talk to white people about racism – Robin DiAngelo

Posted on July 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard to Talk to White People About Racism Click on the link for this excellent, highly topical article by Robin DiAngelo about the challenges white people (or any cultural elite) experience in adequately encountering and understanding … Continue reading →

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