Category Archives: pregnancy

An Ordinary Day – Tom Sastry

Posted on December 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

All I know is the sun rising. The window faces east. I am alive and alone to enjoy it. Last night, I sensed a presence in the room. The air thickened and I felt a weight on me. … Continue reading →

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Your baby does NOT need to ‘learn to self-settle’ Jessica Offer

Posted on December 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.kidspot.com.au/baby/baby-development/baby-behaviour/your-baby-does-not-need-to-learn-to-self-settle Click on the above link to read this post by Jessica on http://www.kidspot.com.au ‘If you’re questioning the rightness of your desire to pick up your baby when he cries, or lie beside him as he falls to sleep, read … Continue reading →

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Chelsea Fields on the decision to circumsize her baby son

Posted on October 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer found it difficult to reach the end of this deeply moving personal account, because of the extent to which she was crying. There’s a quotation from James Hillman we tweeted the other day:- ‘..the question of evil….refers primarily … Continue reading →

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Reclaiming Sweet Freedom – 23 things that we need not explain justify or defend – Isabel Abbott

Posted on September 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/09/reclaiming-sweet-freedom-23-things-that-we-need-not-explain-justify-or-defend/ Just gorgeous. This is written from the woman’s perspective, and the writer wants to expand it to include all of us (with any tweaks required to find the right fit for you). It’s wonderful, profound, poetic and important. Thanks, … Continue reading →

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Antidepressants and autism: David Kupelian

Posted on March 19, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Antidepressants and autism: David Kupelian Must read for parents, parents to be, therapists….well, all of us really. Thanks, Brent Dean Robbins for this interesting post on Society for Humanistic Psychology, Division 32’s Facebook page. Click on the title to go … Continue reading →

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