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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

Posted in body psychotherapy, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Disconnection, dying, Eating, embodiment, emotions, fear, growth, healing, identity, loneliness, metaphor & dream, perception, physical being, power and powerlessness, self, self concept, self esteem, shadow, sleep, suicide, Toko-pa, trauma, vulnerability | Tagged abandoning ourselves, abandoning yourself, abandonment, aliveness, ambiguity, archetype, assertion, authentic experience, authentic feelings, authenticity, auto-immune diseases, awareness, beauty, being unseen, belittling of the feminine, belonging, Bud Harris, child development, chronic fatigue, chronic pain, collapse, confusion, consciousness, cultural collective, cultural shadow, cultural wound, cultural wounding, Daniela Sieff, death, Death Mother, denigration, depression, devaluation, devaluation of feminine, disapproval, disconnection, disconnection from body, disembodied, disembodiment, dreaming, dreams, dreams and metaphor, dreamwork, earth mother, eating disorders, emotional heritage, emotional paralysis, emotional trauma, engaging with our dreams, expression, fear and overwhelm, fear of abandonment, fear of masculine, fear of men, feminine fear, feminine mistrust, feminine values, feminine wound, finding your voice, grief, grief process, grieving process, growth, healing trauma, inertia, inner valuation, internalised belief, Into the Heart of the Feminine, invalidation, Jungian analysis, longing for death, longing for oblivion, low self esteem, Marion Woodman, Massimilla Harris, Medusa myth, motherhood, mothering, myth, myth and symbol, needing support, order from chaos, out of awareness, overwhelm, overwhelming, paradox, paralysing energy, paralysis, personal shadow, physical expressions of loss of inner valuation, psyche, rejection, repulsion, sacred feminine, Self, self care, self concept, self harm, self neglect, self-abdication, self-structure, shadow, something is wrong with me, suicide, symbolic life, symbolism, Toko-pa, transformation, triggers, trusting yourself, Understanding and Healing Emotional Trauma, unwanted aspects of self, unworthiness, women, wounded psyche, yin | Leave a comment

Matt Licata on being received as we are

Posted on April 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer loved the Sigmund Freud quote…. Resonates with how we see therapy at this service, and the person-centred approach. Being received with love, just as we are right now, is such a powerful healing agent….. It seems a tragedy – when Sigmund Freud could … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, actualizing tendency, awakening, communication, compassion, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, fear, grief, growth, healing, human condition, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, Jung, kindness & compassion, love, Matt Licata, perception, person centred, presence, relationship, risk, sadness & pain, self, shadow, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, transformation, trust, unconditional positive regard, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged acceptance, affordable counselling exeter, attunement, awareness, being met, being seen, beloved, compassion, completeness, confusion, connection, contact, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creativity, cure through love, despair, embodied experience, empathic connection, empathy, encounter, energy, enlightenment, expressing needs, field of permission, flatness, Freud, grief, growth, having needs, healing, healing through love, heart opening, hopelessness, human needs, inner world, Jung, low cost counselling exeter, low self esteem, Matt Licata, need to be heard, need to be received, need to be seen, need to be witnessed, nervous systems down regulation, open heart, own being, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, pathologising, pathologising distress, pathologizing, pathologizing distress, person centred counselling exeter, personal growth, presence, psychoanalysis, relational beings, relational matrix, relationship, resolution, responding to anxiety, responding to grief, responding to sadness, risk, secret language, self expression, self perception, softening, somatic, space in relationship, space in therapy, spirituality, suffering, therapeutic relationship, transformation, trust, unmet need, validation, validation of needs, validity of experience, wholeness, witnessing, wounds of the heart, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Matt Licata on when the ground falls away

Posted on March 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is noticing how hard, painful and confusing life is feeling for many in her world, both those she works with therapeutically and others – and how this is often her experience too at the moment. Lots of change and loss … Continue reading →

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Pema Chödrön on Blaming

Posted on March 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who’s right and who’s wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano ‘Six Years after Booze’

Posted on February 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below, for a powerful post from Laura. We regularly feature her work on this blog. Huge respect for her personal journey, and her commitment to challenging the current toxic psychiatric paradigm. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter … Continue reading →

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‘For the Interim Time’ John O’Donohue

Posted on February 1, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘When near the end of day, life has drained Out of light, and it is too soon For the mind of night to have darkened things, No place looks like itself, loss of outline Makes everything look strangely in-between, Unsure … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

Posted on January 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Trust in the Fires of Disintegration

Posted on January 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Matt Licata on how our movement into what Carl Rogers described as ‘the good life’ – as we actualise – tends to involve our feeling our feelings more intensely, and more connection to our vulnerability, rather than the floaty Zen detachment … Continue reading →

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Jeff Foster on the fundamentals of healing, teaching (& therapy)

Posted on December 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Update 29 December: for some reason, this link is not showing up for all readers (thank you, Thad!). In case that includes you, the Jeff Foster quotation is:- “A true healer does not heal you; she simply reflects back to … Continue reading →

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John Welwood on awakening from our conditioning

Posted on December 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If Love is like a sun whose radiant warmth causes us to stir and expand inside the seed of the husk of our conditioned personality, then as this protective shell starts to crack open, we are bound to experience moments of … Continue reading →

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