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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

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A ‘white guy’s’ perspective on narratives about white colonialism, feminism & stuff – Micah Ingle

Posted on February 16, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to visit Micah’s Facebook page for this post – which resonated strongly with the writer. Micah has featured here before. He is a Texan psychologist and counsellor. We experience him as heartful and wise. Here, it’s … Continue reading →

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Gender Equality in Iceland

Posted on October 30, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Encouraging little film from ITV about the Icelandic approach to gender equality. It ends by commenting there is still a 14% pay gap – which recently led to Icelandic women leaving work 14% earlier than their male counterparts, to make … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on being & expressing yourself

Posted on October 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘you tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful but i was not made with a fire in my belly so i could be put out i was not made with a lightness in my tongue … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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What to do when you’re not the hero any more – Laurie Penny

Posted on January 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/culture/film/2015/12/what-do-when-youre-not-hero-any-more Good article from Laurie Penny, about the shifting sands of contemporary cultural heroism in fiction. The writer (like one of the commentators on the article) thinks Laurie is a touch unfair to Joseph Campbell, and that his work is more balanced, … Continue reading →

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Deeyah Khan ‘Women Are Part of the Solution to Extremism’

Posted on October 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/deeyah-khan/muslim-extremism-women_b_8251832.html?utm_hp_ref=uk&ncid=tweetlnkushpmg00000067 Interesting, useful article by Deeyah. The writer (who is a woman) takes a reflective approach to posting pieces with a gendered approach. This is because her own sense is that the underlying issues in our cultures are about human … Continue reading →

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Reclaiming Sweet Freedom – 23 things that we need not explain justify or defend – Isabel Abbott

Posted on September 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/09/reclaiming-sweet-freedom-23-things-that-we-need-not-explain-justify-or-defend/ Just gorgeous. This is written from the woman’s perspective, and the writer wants to expand it to include all of us (with any tweaks required to find the right fit for you). It’s wonderful, profound, poetic and important. Thanks, … Continue reading →

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Lauren Southern on Feminism and Equality

Posted on July 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The point she is making feels like an important one. The writer would say that we have a deep, primary need to belong….Outcomes tend to bleak for those of us unable to meet this need adequately. Few would perhaps argue … Continue reading →

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