Monthly Archives: November 2015

Jacob Appelbaum for openDemocracy

Posted on November 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The last of three posts themed around the current international political situation, and the profound issues and choices we all face. What do we think we are seeing, and what do we intend to do about it? ‘It is not … Continue reading →

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Jan’s Story

Posted on November 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

One of the things we notice in the world, is that hate has difficulty standing up to shared experiences of humanity. Empathy dissolves prejudice and separation. So it feels extremely important to share what this gentle, loving, creative young man has … Continue reading →

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Will I die a Muslim? Raad Rahman for Guernica Magazine

Posted on November 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.guernicamag.com/daily/raad-rahman-will-i-die-a-muslim/ Powerful, important, topical article, well worth a read. Here’s Raad’s blog:- https://wondersonder.wordpress.com/ And here’s a book link:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Framed-Butterflies-Novel-Raad-Rahman-ebook/dp/B00MD08DKE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1448707639&sr=8-1&keywords=raad+rahman+framed+butterflies Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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James Baldwin on Love

Posted on November 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within. I use the word “love” here not merely in the personal sense but as a state of being, or a state of … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown: Why Your Critics Aren’t The Ones Who Count

Posted on November 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another useful talk from Brené Brown, which explores creativity, criticism and how she has learned to deal with it. She talks about how important it is that those of us she calls the ‘sweaty creatives’ – or, borrowing from Theodore Roosevelt’s famous words, … Continue reading →

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The Mirror – Soul Searching Solace

Posted on November 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulsearchingsolace.com/2015/10/12/the-mirror/ Some time ago, the writer encountered this blog. The author shares with raw authenticity her intense pain – that of a mother whose child has died. There is a lot here to resonate with those of us who are … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1408866730/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448297023&sr=1-1&keywords=elizabeth+gilbert+big+magic And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/mary-gauthier-mercy-now/ Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Human – Francine Christophe

Posted on November 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

An excerpt from Yann Arthus-Bertrand’s remarkable film, ‘Human’. It speaks for itself. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to … Continue reading →

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Rainer Maria Rilke ‘I am too alone in the world, and yet not alone’

Posted on November 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I am too alone in the world, and yet not alone enoughto make every moment holy.I am too tiny in this world, and not tiny enoughjust to lie before you like a thing,shrewd and secretive.I want my own will, and … Continue reading →

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Getting ready for school – Pennie Brownlee

Posted on November 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click to access getting_ready_for_school_2.pdf Sensitive, intelligent, useful piece on an important theme…. what is early schooling most usefully about, if it is to serve our children both in their childhoods and their lives as adults? We don’t work with under 18s at … Continue reading →

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