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Henri Frederic Amiel on Mystery

Posted on February 5, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Toko-pa is a regular here…and here we are grateful for this post on her Facebook page of Henri Amiel’s beautiful words and the gorgeous painting by Katherine Goncharova. This sense of respecting the mystery at the heart of ourselves, each other … Continue reading →

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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

Posted on September 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page. “But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells … Continue reading →

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Robert MacFarlane on reading the surface

Posted on March 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We too felt this was a profound passage and metaphor. Here’s the book link, to Robert’s wonderful book:- Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Spinning Straw – Tracy Cochran

Posted on September 12, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2017/07/30/spinning-straw-by-tracy-cochran/?utm_content=buffer9bcb5&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer Click on the link above to visit the site for Parabola Magazine for this remarkable reworking of the Brothers Grimm. It is not long since we published a piece by Tracy – but the writer stumbled upon this at … Continue reading →

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Do Psychiatrists Harm their Patients out of Stupidity? Michael Cornwall

Posted on June 26, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.madinamerica.com/2017/06/do-psychiatrists-harm-patients-out-of-stupidity/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.madinamerica.com for this accurate, perceptive piece by Michael about the ‘disease model’ of psychiatry, which lacks both an evidence base and humanity, and challenges basic common sense. Michael is writing in the … Continue reading →

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Hermann Hesse on Wisdom

Posted on June 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Short, sweet, hugely important…. “Wisdom cannot be imparted. Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else … Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, do wonders through … Continue reading →

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