Monthly Archives: September 2016

Henri Nouwen on our fear of inner chaos, & solitude

Posted on September 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“As soon as we are alone,…inner chaos opens up in us. This chaos can be so disturbing and so confusing that we can hardly wait to get busy again. Entering a private room and shutting the door, therefore, does not … Continue reading →

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Paulo Coelho on Awakening love

Posted on September 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Shadow Work & Love

Posted on September 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here is the text for those who have difficulty in reading Facebook links:- ‘To do the work of the shadow, to travel along the descendent current with your heart open, is a radical act of kindness and courage. For when … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on unfettered capitalism & coercive conformity

Posted on September 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The past two decades have witnessed unprecedented changes in the economic and political organisation of the world. We live, we are constantly told, in the era of globalisation, a euphemism for the triumph throughout the world of the so-called free … Continue reading →

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer on being lied about

Posted on September 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is only too familiar with the feeling Oriah describes: ‘constricted, shaken, a little frantic….helpless’ – and with the inward and outward impacts of being privately and publicly lied about, with significant harm done. At one level she subscribes … Continue reading →

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Seeking Sanctuary in Our Own Sacred Spaces – Parker J. Palmer

Posted on September 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.onbeing.org/blog/parker-palmer-seeking-sanctuary-in-our-own-sacred-spaces/8928 Click on the link to visit http://www.onbeing.org for this wonderful piece by Parker J Palmer on the importance of creating sanctuary in our lives, to support our doing what we can to survive in – and challenge – the … Continue reading →

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Upworthy – Challenging body-shaming

Posted on September 16, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Shaming seems to have become a bloodsport in our culture. It arises from damage and perpetuates damage. There is never any justification for it, and it seems to us deeply important to challenge it – as many of us … Continue reading →

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Jeff Brown on repressing feeling

Posted on September 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Too many of us move through our lives with our true selves buried below layers of repressed emotion. With so much energy channeled toward sustaining the repression, there is little left over for the deeper questions. The consequences of our … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on Mystery

Posted on September 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“As a physician, I was trained to deal with uncertainty as aggressively as I dealt with disease itself. The unknown was the enemy. Within this world view, having a question feels like an emergency; it means that something is out … Continue reading →

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Joy – David Whyte

Posted on September 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

David has dedicated this post today on his Facebook page to his daughter, who is beginning college. May all those venturing into the world, and those who love them, experience joy and aliveness. Here is the text, for those who … Continue reading →

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