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Unconditional – David Whyte

Posted on August 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty reading Facebook links:- ‘UNCONDITIONAL love is not fully possible. Unconditional love is the necessary, dream-like, and invisible shoreline that continually draws us to its edge but where we can never fully … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

Posted on November 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading →

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Thousands of children are being medicated for ADHD – when the condition may not even exist – Will Sutcliffe

Posted on September 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/thousands-of-children-are-being-medicated-for-adhd–when-the-condition-may-not-even-exist-10509842.html Thoughtful and useful article by Will about the ‘ADHD’ label, its implications and consequences. The writer too believes the exponential increase in diagnosis and drug treatment makes sense in political and financial terms, rather than in terms of the … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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