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Robert MacFarlane on reading the surface

Posted on March 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We too felt this was a profound passage and metaphor. Here’s the book link, to Robert’s wonderful book:- Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Bringing yourself to the room as therapist

Posted on April 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It is vitally important the therapist authentically brings their wholeness of being to the room – and not a presentation: a sanitised, tidied, diluted ‘professional’ version of themselves. We need to risk being ourselves, because that then invites the client … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics: Janet Tolan on Subtle Contact

Posted on December 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The fifth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. “There is a further way in which we make contact with each other. There seems to be no term for it in Western psychological thought, and so I will call it … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Labels

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The third in our occasional series of some person-centred fundamentals. ‘There are many ways of describing people who use services such as housing, education and health. Some of these are also used of counselling clients: this client is “manipulative”, that … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Listening to the whole person

Posted on September 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is is the first of an occasional series we are launching, refreshing some basics of person-centred theory. We are beginning with Janet Tolan, on the importance of affording the core conditions to self-structure. ‘Listening to the whole person One … Continue reading →

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Mia Leijssen on Working with the Inner Critic

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting excerpt from Mia’s essay on Focusing, in this excellent book edited by Brian Thorne and Elke Lambers. Mia looks at working with someone who experiences interruptions from the ‘bad parent’/superego voice. She follows this with a brief illustrative case … Continue reading →

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Irvin Yalom on dangerous labels, and becoming a therapist

Posted on September 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“What? ‘Borderline patients play games’? That what you said? Ernest, you’ll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That’s exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis. There are borderlines and there … Continue reading →

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Yalom on Diagnostic Labels

Posted on January 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The standard diagnostic formulation tells the therapist nothing about the unique person he or she is encountering; and there is substantial evidence that diagnostic labels impede or distort listening.’ Irvin Yalom: Existential Psychotherapy Yes, Yalom’s comment is daily evidenced in … Continue reading →

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Two letters to Tim Bond on BACP’s proposed changes to the ethical framework – Els van Ooijen

Posted on January 6, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.nepenthe.org.uk/ethics/ The second in our series of posts on BACP’s proposed changes to its Ethical Framework. We share the concern of many therapists about the nature and direction of these changes (and BACP’s political ambitions). We do not think this … Continue reading →

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Michael Eigen on learning to be with our scream

Posted on October 23, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Just because one is a baby and stops screaming, it doesn’t mean that the scream goes away inside. There is a scream that goes on all life long no matter who we are or what we do. Some of us … Continue reading →

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