Monthly Archives: April 2016

Bernadette Miller on the Great Mystery

Posted on April 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Thank you to Toko-pa and to Bernadette Miller for these words about the great mystery we all inhabit, and to Elena Ray for the beautiful artwork. For those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links, here is the text:- ‘Move with … Continue reading →

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Not This – Liz Gilbert

Posted on April 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A helpful post from Liz (‘Eat, Pray, Love’) Gilbert. Many of the people who come to our service have reached the point of ‘Not This’. Those arriving at this realization may have no idea how to extricate themselves from the situation they are … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky with Jon Ronson

Posted on April 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/16/monica-lewinsky-shame-sticks-like-tar-jon-ronson Click on the link above for today’s post – Monica Lewinsky in a recent interview with Jon Ronson in The Guardian, well worth a read. In 2015, we published a link to, and a piece on, Monica’s wonderful TED talk ‘The … Continue reading →

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TED: Bhutan’s Prime Minister Tshering Tobgay

Posted on April 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is an inspirational 19 minutes. Politicians are not all cut from the same cloth…. No matter who we are, how big or small, we have choices about the values we live by and we can make a difference. This is … Continue reading →

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‘From the Ashes’ Ian Adams

Posted on April 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘You have spent a lifetime quietly mourning or ignoring your losses and your lostness with no funeral, no wake and no way to nurture your joy. Time for a burial. No, for a burning! For a great funeral pyre that … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on being received as we are

Posted on April 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer loved the Sigmund Freud quote…. Resonates with how we see therapy at this service, and the person-centred approach. Being received with love, just as we are right now, is such a powerful healing agent….. It seems a tragedy – when Sigmund Freud could … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Love – ‘Much has been said’

Posted on April 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beauty and depth, from David. Here’s the text, for those of our readers who have trouble seeing Facebook posts through the link:- “MUCH HAS BEEN SAID Much has been said about the eternal and untouchable nature of love, its tidal … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on Living in the Questions

Posted on April 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://mariashriver.com/blog/2016/04/prime-book-brene-brown-courage-vulnerability-peter-freed/?utm_source=Current+Users&utm_campaign=6c8a4c7de2-April_8_Send_Out_4_8_2016&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_53bf79976c-6c8a4c7de2-35203661&mc_cid=6c8a4c7de2&mc_eid=baf214491e Brené talking about what the maturation process has looked like for her… We agree – learning to live in the questions is also what we see unfolding in therapy. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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Henri Nouwen on Compassion

Posted on April 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A couple of lovely quotations from Henri on this theme:- “Let us not underestimate how hard it is to be compassionate. Compassion is hard because it requires the inner disposition to go with others to places where they are weak, … Continue reading →

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Animal courtships, performed by humans

Posted on April 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It’s a first in our history to post a condom advert, but we enjoyed this piece of whimsy, which has some depth and beauty – and we thought you might too… Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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