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Small Gods – Martin Shaw

Posted on October 22, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://drmartinshaw.com/essays/ Click on the link above for another powerful piece from Martin. Here’s a taste:- ‘Once upon a time there was a lonely hunter. One evening, returning to his hut over the snow, he saw smoke coming from his chimney. … Continue reading →

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Reasons not to use ‘timeouts’ or ‘naughty steps’

Posted on August 21, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Useful short film, explaining how ‘timeout’ or the ‘naughty step’ harm your relationship with your child and damage their ability to connect helpfully with their feelings and with you. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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How You Are Already Seeding Transformation – Joe Brewer

Posted on January 25, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://medium.com/@joe_brewer/how-you-are-already-seeding-transformation-d14a516d2850 Click on the above link for this inspiring piece from Joe. Thanks to Justine Corrie on Facebook for showing us this. Here’s an excerpt:- “Imagine the surface of a mountain lake in winter. The air has fallen below freezing … Continue reading →

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I’m a Therapist, But I’m Not Your Therapist – Kathleen Smith

Posted on December 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thecut.com/2017/12/therapist-friends-ask-for-advice.html?utm_campaign=sou&utm_source=fb&utm_medium=s1 Click on the link above for Kathleen’s thoughtful and perceptive piece…. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

Posted in boundaries, communication, community, conditions of worth, congruence, core conditions, cultural questions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, ethics, friendship, growth, healing, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, non-directive counselling, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, resilience, sadness & pain, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, vulnerability | Tagged advice and therapy, affordable counselling exeter, asking advice, assumptions, autonomy, boundaries, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, expectations in relationship, expectations of self, internal locus, Kathleen Smith, low cost counselling exeter, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, prophet in own land, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Duet – Amy Yakima & Travis Wall

Posted on July 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Worldwidedance on Facebook, for this beautiful, expressive pair dance by Amy and Travis, about connection and sexual relationship. Travis also did the choreography for this piece. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling … Continue reading →

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5 things I wish you knew before euthanizing your dog – Kelsey Beth Carpenter

Posted on July 13, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://pupjournal.com/5-things-wish-knew-euthanizing/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=pj-share Click on the above link for this reflective, kind, helpful piece on a difficult theme by a veterinary technician. The writer of this post has seen many beloved creatures on their final journeys, and resonated with these comments, whether … Continue reading →

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