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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

Posted on November 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Reclaiming Sweet Freedom – 23 things that we need not explain justify or defend – Isabel Abbott

Posted on September 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/09/reclaiming-sweet-freedom-23-things-that-we-need-not-explain-justify-or-defend/ Just gorgeous. This is written from the woman’s perspective, and the writer wants to expand it to include all of us (with any tweaks required to find the right fit for you). It’s wonderful, profound, poetic and important. Thanks, … Continue reading →

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Things not to say to a trans person – Free Speech – BBC Three

Posted on May 25, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Funny, human, obvious (with empathy), profound, touching, relational. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men – Alyssa Goldstein

Posted on May 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.alternet.org/when-women-wanted-sex-much-more-men Click on the link to visit Alternet for Alyssa’s interesting browse through some of the historical and political dimensions of current cultural perceptions of gender/sexuality. Many of these perceptions are profoundly unhelpful and unpleasant:- ‘Women must be convinced, persuaded, … Continue reading →

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What it’s like to be intersex – BuzzFeed Video

Posted on April 7, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Four beautiful young people talking about finding their ways into their authentic being and senses of identity – despite what sound like sometimes brutal experiences of coercive external locus, other people’s assumptions, and aloneness. Brief, moving insight into the experience … Continue reading →

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Words – Ruth Stone

Posted on March 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Words ‘Wallace Stevens says, “A poet looks at the world as a man looks at a woman.” I can never know what a man sees when he looks at a woman. That is a sealed universe. On the outside of … Continue reading →

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Debunking the Myths about Boys and Emotions By Vicki Zakrzewski

Posted on December 3, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/debunking_myths_boys_emotions Click on the link for this useful and important piece by Vicki Zakrzewski. Gratitude to Sarah for posting this on her Facebook page and introducing us to it. We notice a lot of subtle (and less subtle) gender prejudice … Continue reading →

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Rewilding the Yoga Body – Danielle Prohom Olson

Posted on October 21, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://bodydivineyoga.wordpress.com/2014/10/06/rewilding-the-yoga-body/ Click on the link for this interesting and wide-ranging post by Danielle beginning with modern cultural ideas of feminine beauty in the context of the ‘yoga body’, and ranging through other cultures, times and spiritual traditions in search of … Continue reading →

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Madiha Bhatti on the harm perpetuated/done by songs that objectify

Posted on August 3, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Powerful piece by Madiha on her response to song lyrics that objectify, the cultural gender issues wrapped up in this, and the harm done to all of us. Thanks to Ali for drawing our attention to this. Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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