Monthly Archives: December 2015

Anne Lamott on The New Year Diet

Posted on December 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Characteristic humour and depth from Anne, on a seasonally relevant theme…. This touches on personal experience for me. I have experienced similar battles to Anne’s. In my past life, I regularly embarked on diets. I have also found more of value in deeper connection … Continue reading →

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What is my motivation to contribute to the world – Thomas Hübl

Posted on December 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Brief, useful film about the personal and subjective nature of reality, and the importance of reflective process into our motivating emotions underlying what we do in the world… How, simply by beginning this enquiry, we connect more deeply with ourselves, others … Continue reading →

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Bell Hooks on patriarchal violence to men

Posted on December 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an … Continue reading →

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Wendell Berry on Inspiration & Realization

Posted on December 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There are, it seems, two muses: the Muse of Inspiration, who gives us inarticulate visions and desires, and the Muse of Realization, who returns again and again to say “It is yet more difficult than you thought.” This is the … Continue reading →

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Jeff Foster on the fundamentals of healing, teaching (& therapy)

Posted on December 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Update 29 December: for some reason, this link is not showing up for all readers (thank you, Thad!). In case that includes you, the Jeff Foster quotation is:- “A true healer does not heal you; she simply reflects back to … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Resting

Posted on December 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have not long posted a David Whyte link – and this feels so seasonally appropriate, and so lovely, that we are indulging ourselves. With hope that – wherever you are, and whatever this time of year has meant and … Continue reading →

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Jonathan Carroll with a story about random kindness

Posted on December 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A New York taxi driver living through the core conditions. There is something really touching about this when-it-counts empathy – and the fragility and risk of that, how easy it would be to miss such a moment and its immense significance. “Three … Continue reading →

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The Longest Night by Angie Pickman

Posted on December 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We are welcoming the Winter Solstice, and the slow return of the light, with this lovely little animated film by Angie Pickman. May the coming months bring many blessings. Here is Angie’s Facebook page, which has lots more to enjoy. … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts – You’re It

Posted on December 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Alan Watts doing what he does…. On the nature of reality, and on fear. Deep and thoughtful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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David Whyte on Giving

Posted on December 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A seasonal meditation from David… Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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