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Matt Licata on Ego

Posted on October 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Ego’ for many of us becomes a term of abuse for self/other and source of shame. Here’s a radically different and far more accurate/useful take on this…. Thanks, Matt. Here’s the text for those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links:- … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- http://www.amazon.co.uk/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1408866730/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1448297023&sr=1-1&keywords=elizabeth+gilbert+big+magic And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2014/07/29/mary-gauthier-mercy-now/ Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on building trust via the core conditions

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The second in our occasional series of refreshers in some of the fundamentals of a person-centred approach to therapeutic work. The following examples from Dave and Brian cluster around the central theme of building trust, and which core conditions may … Continue reading →

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Will Hall on Marijuana

Posted on August 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://beyondmeds.com/2015/08/26/marijuana-for-mental-health/ Wide-ranging, intelligent, balanced and informed contribution to the cannabis debate by Will – whose writing is consistently of high quality. The writer has no agenda about what drugs other competent adult human beings do/don’t decide to take – but … Continue reading →

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John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

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Laurie Penny: The New Statesman – the issue for Europe is not migrants, but creeping fascism

Posted on August 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2015/08/europe-shouldn-t-worry-about-migrants-it-should-worry-about-creeping-fascism Powerful and accurate piece from Laurie, for which gratitude. ‘There is an urban legend about boiling frogs, and it goes like this. If you put a frog in a pan of cold water and slowly, slowly turn up the … Continue reading →

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