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Marshall Rosenberg on what peace requires from us

Posted on April 16, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, … Continue reading →

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How You Are Already Seeding Transformation – Joe Brewer

Posted on January 25, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://medium.com/@joe_brewer/how-you-are-already-seeding-transformation-d14a516d2850 Click on the above link for this inspiring piece from Joe. Thanks to Justine Corrie on Facebook for showing us this. Here’s an excerpt:- “Imagine the surface of a mountain lake in winter. The air has fallen below freezing … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein ‘Kind is the new cool’

Posted on January 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Interesting, hopeful post from Charles, which sits well with the post a couple of days ago showing Xiuhtezcatl Martinez of Earth Guardians speaking to the United Nations:- https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2016/01/21/xiuhtezcatl-martinez-of-earth-guardians-speaking-to-the-u-n-in-paris/ Here’s the text of Charles’ post, as we have at least one regular reader … Continue reading →

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What to do when you’re not the hero any more – Laurie Penny

Posted on January 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/culture/film/2015/12/what-do-when-youre-not-hero-any-more Good article from Laurie Penny, about the shifting sands of contemporary cultural heroism in fiction. The writer (like one of the commentators on the article) thinks Laurie is a touch unfair to Joseph Campbell, and that his work is more balanced, … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Labels

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The third in our occasional series of some person-centred fundamentals. ‘There are many ways of describing people who use services such as housing, education and health. Some of these are also used of counselling clients: this client is “manipulative”, that … Continue reading →

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Thousands of children are being medicated for ADHD – when the condition may not even exist – Will Sutcliffe

Posted on September 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/thousands-of-children-are-being-medicated-for-adhd–when-the-condition-may-not-even-exist-10509842.html Thoughtful and useful article by Will about the ‘ADHD’ label, its implications and consequences. The writer too believes the exponential increase in diagnosis and drug treatment makes sense in political and financial terms, rather than in terms of the … Continue reading →

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Thomas Merton on where to focus in our working

Posted on September 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Do not depend on the hope of results. You may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you … Continue reading →

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Marshall Rosenberg on cultural beliefs

Posted on September 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“…there is considerably less violence in cultures where people think in terms of human needs than in cultures where people label one another as “good” or “bad” and believe that the “bad” ones deserve to be punished.” Marshall B. Rosenberg, … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Listening to the whole person

Posted on September 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is is the first of an occasional series we are launching, refreshing some basics of person-centred theory. We are beginning with Janet Tolan, on the importance of affording the core conditions to self-structure. ‘Listening to the whole person One … Continue reading →

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How Societies with Little Coercion Have Little Mental Illness – Bruce Levine

Posted on August 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://brucelevine.net/how-societies-with-little-coercion-have-little-mental-illness/ ‘Coercion—the use of physical, legal, chemical, psychological, financial, and other forces to gain compliance—is intrinsic to our society’s employment, schooling, and parenting. However, coercion results in fear and resentment, which are fuels for miserable marriages, unhappy families, and what … Continue reading →

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