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The Loneliness of Donald Trump – Rebecca Solnit

Posted on June 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://lithub.com/rebecca-solnit-the-loneliness-of-donald-trump/ Click on the link above to visit http://www.lithub.com for this perceptive and sad piece by Rebecca. ““They were careless people,” F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote of the rich couple at the heart of The Great Gatsby. “They smashed up things and … Continue reading →

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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on art, complexity & ambiguity

Posted on July 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This extract is from a recent acquisition to the library here, ‘The Hope of Therapy’ by Paul Gordon. He describes it as “an argument for… therapeutic freedom” as an essential element of creativity. His premise is that therapy cannot meaningfully be reduced to techniques, … Continue reading →

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‘5 Signs You’re on the Hero’s Journey’ Alison Nappi

Posted on January 5, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.writewithspirit.com/blog/5-signs-youre-on-the-heros-journey Yesterday’s post included a Joseph Campbell reference, and today we remain with the themes of the hero’s journey, and the importance of mythology in our quest for meaning. Laurie Penny and Alison Nappi have written very different pieces around these themes … Continue reading →

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

Posted on November 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on building trust via the core conditions

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The second in our occasional series of refreshers in some of the fundamentals of a person-centred approach to therapeutic work. The following examples from Dave and Brian cluster around the central theme of building trust, and which core conditions may … Continue reading →

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