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What Taking Care of Yourself Really Means – Elizabeth Gilbert

Posted on August 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Elizabeth-Gilbert-Practical-Ways-To-Practice-Self-Care?FB=fb_sss_gilbert_self_care Click on the link above for this vitally important and approachable piece by Liz Gilbert (‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’) on how to make sense of the – so difficult for so many – idea of loving yourself:- … Continue reading →

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Pema Chodron on Relaxing with impermanence (on her 80th birthday)

Posted on November 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to see this little film of Pema at 80, speaking about the fear of death and how we may learn to approach our dying. ‘When the appearances of this life dissolve, may I with ease and … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on finding our feelings in therapy

Posted on August 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I suspect we could all tell a story similar to that told by the playwright David Hare recalling his childhood in post-war Britain: ‘In the other half of our semi-detached lived a solicitor and his wife. She had perfectly mastered … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Trust in the Fires of Disintegration

Posted on January 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Matt Licata on how our movement into what Carl Rogers described as ‘the good life’ – as we actualise – tends to involve our feeling our feelings more intensely, and more connection to our vulnerability, rather than the floaty Zen detachment … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts – You’re It

Posted on December 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Alan Watts doing what he does…. On the nature of reality, and on fear. Deep and thoughtful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Annie Dillard on what lies beneath

Posted on November 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘In the deeps are the violence and terror of which psychology has warned us. But if you ride these monsters deeper down, if you drop with them farther over the world’s rim, you find what our sciences cannot locate or … Continue reading →

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Why Does Mainstream Psychiatry Fear a Balanced Understanding of Psychosis? Ron Unger

Posted on November 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://recoveryfromschizophrenia.org/2015/11/why-does-mainstream-psychiatry-fear-a-balanced-understanding-of-psychosis/#more-1682 Useful, interesting article on the BPS Report, ‘Understanding Psychosis and Schizophrenia’ and the mainstream psychiatric response. Thanks, Ron. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Anne Lamott on the challenges (and grace) of being alive

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Love and service are my business’ With humour, grace and gratitude. Thanks, Anne. Helpful reminders. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Forty Days – Paul Kingsnorth

Posted on October 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalonenessproject.org/library/articles/forty-days A counter-cultural invitation by Paul to explore the creative potential of withdrawing and of being alone, in the context of his own longings for withdrawal. As the introduction here puts it:- ‘He explains and reinterprets his childhood dreams of withdrawal … Continue reading →

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‘Like a silkworm weaving’ Akka Mahadevi – the eclipse, shadow & growth by Ivan Granger

Posted on October 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.poetry-chaikhana.com/blog/2015/09/30/akka-mahadevi-like-a-silkworm-weaving/ Beautiful poem by Akka Mahadevi, and profound and beautifully expressed reflections by Ivan in the wake of September’s lunar eclipse. Here’s a taste:- ‘The thing about the dark parts of life and the dark parts of our own psyches … Continue reading →

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