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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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What about when meditation doesn’t help with anxiety?

Posted on March 10, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.nondualtherapy.life/2018/01/28/q-what-about-when-meditation-doesnt-help-with-anxiety/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.nondualtherapy.life for this helpful response to a reader’s question. Our experience is that very often people’s understanding of what meditation or mindfulness offers, is distorted and misses the heart of the practice … Continue reading →

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Linda Graham on Forgiveness

Posted on February 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Forgiveness does not mean condoning, pardoning, forgetting, false reconciliation, appeasement, or sentimentality. It is a practice, daily and lifelong, of cultivating our own inner peace and wisdom that allows us to see that our pain is part of the pain … Continue reading →

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A Counsel of Resistance & Delight in the Face of Fear – Martin Shaw

Posted on February 8, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://medium.com/@schoolofmyth/a-counsel-of-resistance-and-delight-in-the-face-of-fear-91ddb91dc415 Please click on the above for this piece on http://www.medium.com from local storyteller, Martin Shaw. It feels like one of the most important and resonant things the writer of this blog has seen in the last few months. A … Continue reading →

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A Fox & A Mouse – Award-winning animated short ESMA

Posted on January 19, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the You Tube link above for this touching short animation about separateness, encounter, empathy and evolving perceptions/relationship. The directors are Camille Chaix, Hugo Jean, Juliette Jourdan, Marie Pillier and Kevin Roger, with music by Clement Osmont and Olivier … Continue reading →

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I am not your fault – Charlotte Eriksson

Posted on December 21, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“So I am not a broken heart. I am not the weight I lost or miles or ran and I am not the way I slept on my doorstep under the bare sky in smell of tears and whiskey because … Continue reading →

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Mirabai Starr in our inner worlds

Posted on November 10, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is a secret place. A radiant sanctuary. As real as your own kitchen. More real than that. Constructed of the purest elements. Overflowing with the ten thousand beautiful things. Worlds within worlds. Forests, rivers. Velvet coverlets thrown over featherbeds, … Continue reading →

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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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The Touch of Madness – David Dobbs

Posted on October 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://psmag.com/magazine/the-touch-of-madness-mental-health-schizophrenia Click on the link above for this wonderful (lengthy – and well worth the time investment) piece. Nev’s perspective aligns with how we see ‘madness’ at this service. Thank you, David – and Nev. Also thanks to Jason Hine, … Continue reading →

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