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Jez Hughes on the cultural/collective context of ‘mental illness’

Posted on April 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“If we were to approach something like schizophrenia as an extreme example of an underlying disease in our society; that those suffering the mental torment are the ones actually taking the knocks for the whole of the culture as they … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Posted on August 31, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading →

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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics: Janet Tolan on Subtle Contact

Posted on December 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The fifth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. “There is a further way in which we make contact with each other. There seems to be no term for it in Western psychological thought, and so I will call it … Continue reading →

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Carl Rogers on remembering our humanity

Posted on October 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Before every session, I take a moment to remember my humanity. There is no experience that this man has that I cannot share with him, no fear that I cannot understand, no suffering that I cannot care about, because I … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on building trust via the core conditions

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The second in our occasional series of refreshers in some of the fundamentals of a person-centred approach to therapeutic work. The following examples from Dave and Brian cluster around the central theme of building trust, and which core conditions may … Continue reading →

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Person-Centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Listening to the whole person

Posted on September 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is is the first of an occasional series we are launching, refreshing some basics of person-centred theory. We are beginning with Janet Tolan, on the importance of affording the core conditions to self-structure. ‘Listening to the whole person One … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on what we actually need to hear….

Posted on May 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Well said. Often people come to this service who have been offered these pieces of advice or would-be comforting perceptions. They’ve heard them at home, from colleagues, on ‘inspirational’ sites, from a religious perspective, from therapists… this stuff pops up … Continue reading →

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Lao Tsu on the power of listening deeply

Posted on April 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It was as though he listened deeply, and such listening as his enfolds us in silence in which at last we begin to hear what we are meant to be. Lao Tsu Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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When Another Child Hurts Your Child – Patty Wipfler

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-another-child-hurts-your-child/ Interesting, helpful article from Patty from Hand in Hand Parenting. This one explores helpful/unhelpful responses in this emotionally demanding situation, to the child who has been hurt, to the aggressor and also looks at how the parent can best … Continue reading →

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