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Mark Nepo on presence and directness

Posted on October 10, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We waste so much energy trying to cover up who we are when beneath every attitude is the want to be loved, and beneath every anger is a wound to be healed and beneath every sadness is the fear that … Continue reading →

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Parker J. Palmer on Integrity and wholeness

Posted on October 11, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“By choosing integrity, I become more whole, but wholeness does not mean perfection. It means becoming more real by acknowledging the whole of who I am.” Parker J Palmer – The Courage to Teach: Exploring the Inner Landscape of a … Continue reading →

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Posted on September 10, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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A Counsel of Resistance & Delight in the Face of Fear – Martin Shaw

Posted on February 8, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://medium.com/@schoolofmyth/a-counsel-of-resistance-and-delight-in-the-face-of-fear-91ddb91dc415 Please click on the above for this piece on http://www.medium.com from local storyteller, Martin Shaw. It feels like one of the most important and resonant things the writer of this blog has seen in the last few months. A … Continue reading →

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Howard Thurman on the sound of the genuine within

Posted on September 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of … Continue reading →

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Jordan Peterson on Finding a Voice

Posted on June 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer has a sense that she and Jordan might see some fundamental things differently….and she is pretty much word for word with him on this, although (at least sometimes) she might say it with softer energies these days…. … Continue reading →

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Bringing yourself to the room as therapist

Posted on April 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It is vitally important the therapist authentically brings their wholeness of being to the room – and not a presentation: a sanitised, tidied, diluted ‘professional’ version of themselves. We need to risk being ourselves, because that then invites the client … Continue reading →

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Joseph Campbell on Individuating

Posted on January 24, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“To become — in Jung’s terms — individuated, to live as a released individual, one has to know how and when to put on and to put off the masks of one’s various life roles. ‘When in Rome, do as … Continue reading →

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Kali Takes America: I’m With Her – Vera De Chalambert

Posted on December 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.rebellesociety.com/2016/11/18/veradechalambert-kali/ Click on the link to visit http://www.rebellesociety.com for Vera’s brilliant article, which lays a sensitive finger on the cultural pulse – and not only in the U.S. Reading this, the writer felt it was the most important thing she … Continue reading →

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