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For One Who Is Exhausted – John O’Donohue

Posted on February 24, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above to visit Facebook for John’s beautiful blessing, for the many of us needing it from time to time. Here are the words, for those who have difficulty seeing FB links:- FOR ONE WHO IS EXHAUSTED … Continue reading →

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Why We’re Underestimating American Collapse – Umair Haque

Posted on February 1, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://eand.co/why-were-underestimating-american-collapse-be04d9e55235 Click on the above link to Eudaimonia’s site for this – perceptive, insightful and scarily accurate from where we are looking – piece by Umair Haque, on the cultural pathologies of the current US situation, and what this means … Continue reading →

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Dr. Gabor Maté on Donald Trump, Traumaphobia & Compassion – John Lavitt

Posted on January 4, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-donald-trump-traumaphobia-and-compassion-interview ‘…a few days ago, I met a young woman who was an emergency room physician in Detroit, and she had graduated from medical school in Michigan. Although I knew the answer, I asked her how many lectures she had … Continue reading →

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

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The Loneliness of Donald Trump – Rebecca Solnit

Posted on June 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://lithub.com/rebecca-solnit-the-loneliness-of-donald-trump/ Click on the link above to visit http://www.lithub.com for this perceptive and sad piece by Rebecca. ““They were careless people,” F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote of the rich couple at the heart of The Great Gatsby. “They smashed up things and … Continue reading →

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Alan Watts on our collective fugue state

Posted on June 6, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘One can only draw the conclusion that the assumption underlying this is that expressions of physical love are far more dangerous than expressions of physical hatred. And it seems to me that a culture that has that sort of … Continue reading →

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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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‘All Together Now’ George Monbiot

Posted on March 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.monbiot.com/2017/02/09/all-together-now/ Click on the above link to visit George Monbiot’s own site for this article about how we might begin to restore community. Like George, we believe the antidote to our manifold ills as societies lies in connection, relationship and … Continue reading →

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Joseph Campbell on Individuating

Posted on January 24, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“To become — in Jung’s terms — individuated, to live as a released individual, one has to know how and when to put on and to put off the masks of one’s various life roles. ‘When in Rome, do as … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano ‘Six Years after Booze’

Posted on February 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below, for a powerful post from Laura. We regularly feature her work on this blog. Huge respect for her personal journey, and her commitment to challenging the current toxic psychiatric paradigm. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter … Continue reading →

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