The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay – Monica Cassani

The biggest issue we face: #WorldMentalHealthDay

Click on the above link to visit Monica’s site http://www.beyondmeds.com for this piece she published last week on ‘World Mental Health Day’. Her perspective and ours at this service have lots in common. Both this piece and Monica’s site in its entirety are packed with useful resources. Enjoy.

And thank you, Monica.

Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Parker J. Palmer on Integrity and wholeness

“By choosing integrity, I become more whole, but wholeness does not mean perfection. It means becoming more real by acknowledging the whole of who I am.”

Parker J Palmer – The Courage to Teach: Exploring the Inner Landscape of a Teacher’s Life

Oh, so much in these few words….and yes.

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Adrift – Mark Nepo

‘Everything is beautiful and I am so sad.
This is how the heart makes a duet of
wonder and grief. The light spraying
through the lace of the fern is as delicate
as the fibers of memory forming their web
around the knot in my throat. The breeze
makes the birds move from branch to branch
as this ache makes me look for those I’ve lost
in the next room, in the next song, in the laugh
of the next stranger. In the very center, under
it all, what we have that no one can take
away and all that we’ve lost face each other.
It is there that I’m adrift, feeling punctured
by a holiness that exists inside everything.
I am so sad and everything is beautiful.’

Mark Nepo  

Here’s the link to Mark’s site where he says something about the context for this poem. It appears in his wonderful book ‘Inside the Miracle: Enduring Suffering and Approaching Wholeness’. Here’s the link:-

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Søren Kierkegaard on Losing oneself

“The greatest hazard of all, losing one’s self, can occur very quietly in the world, as if it were nothing at all. No other loss can occur so quietly; any other loss – an arm, a leg, five dollars, a wife, etc. – is sure to be noticed.” 

Søren Kierkegaard – The Sickness Unto Death

What is it to ‘lose one’s self’? From our perspective, it is disconnection – from feeling; from aliveness; from our senses and our bodies; from coherent thinking and deep-rooted ethics; within relationship; from community; from the natural world; from a spiritual dimension to experience – and this is the great sickness and lack in our world at present.

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On the Wildness of Children – Carol Black

http://carolblack.org/on-the-wildness-of-children

Click on the link above to visit Carol’s website for this well written and profoundly important article. Gratitude to Embercombe for alerting us to this piece via their Facebook page.

“But as Odawa elder and educator Wilfred Peltier tells us, learning – like all human relationships – must be based in the ethical principal of non-interference, in the right of all human beings to make their own choices, as long as they’re not interfering with anybody else.  As Nishnaabeg scholar and author Leanne Betasamosake Simpson tells us, learning – like all human relationships –  must be based in the ethical principal of consent, in the right of all human beings to be free of violence and the use of force.  Simpson explains:

If children learn to normalize dominance and non-consent within the context of education, then non-consent becomes a normalized part of the ‘tool kit’ of those who have and wield power… This is unthinkable within Nishnaabeg intelligence.

Interestingly, the most brilliant artists and scientists in Euro-western societies tell us exactly the same thing: that it is precisely this state of open attention, curiosity, freedom, collaboration, consent, that is necessary for all true learning, discovery, creation.   

But our school system has been built of other bricks.”

and:-

“Species die, our planet warms, and in the name of teaching our children to save the world, we go on destroying their wildness, “socializing” them away from nature and into the cage we have built around childhood.  Our nice teachers try to find ways to make it “fun,” to limit or at least soften the damage that is done; like zookeepers giving beach balls to captive polar bears, they try to find substitutes for what is lost.   But the world is too beautiful to substitute for, and the wildest of our children – the ones they have to put on Ritalin, the ones they have to put on Prozac – know it.  These children are the canaries in the coal mine, the ones who will not obey our masters, who will not take their place as cogs in the machine that is destroying the earth.  They are not the ones who have a “disorder.”  They are the ones who still hold the perfect Kosmos in their hearts.

The revolution will not take place in a classroom.

In wildness is the preservation of the world.”

Yes, indeed. Thank you, Carol.

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Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Jeff Foster on Sadness and anger

Some extraordinarily important words from Jeff about our relationship with emotions perceived as ‘difficult’ and the judgments these attract…. We are often struck by how common those judgments are, even among the ‘spiritual’ and even among therapists – as if our task is somehow to transcend or overcome or remove these feelings, and we are at fault or ‘weak’ or ‘not working hard enough’ if we don’t manage to do this. No.

Whilst such feelings may be deeply painful, and the person experiencing them may wish they could be absent, the reality is as Jeff describes…. in welcoming all of ourselves, our whole beings, sensing into the true meanings of all that we have tried to exclude, we come home to the fullness of ourselves with love – which is the point of therapy and all forms of ‘personal growth’ work.

For those who have difficulty reading FB links, here is the text:-

‘A PRAYER

Sadness and anger, please forgive me. 

I used to run from you.
I imagined that you were ‘bad’.
Or ‘unhealthy’. Or ‘unspiritual’.
Or a sign of weakness. 
Or a fault of ‘ego’ or the ‘separate self’.

Or shameful.

No. No. I was wrong. You are life itself.
You belong. 
I bow to you now. 
I breathe into you. 
I give you my breath.

Sadness, you help keep my heart open.
You remind me to let go, in each moment.
You are a beautiful release.
You help me befriend death and impermanence.

Anger, you remind me of my power.
You rise spontaneously to protect the organism.
You help me speak up without fear.
Speak truth. Speak out against falsehood.
Walk this path with courage.
Protect those I love.

Sadness and anger, please forgive me. 
You are inseparable from the sacredness.
You are deeply accepted now.
In my vastness.’

Jeff Foster

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Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Marion Woodman on the power of love

“Love is the real power. It’s the energy that cherishes. The more you work with that energy, the more you will see how people respond naturally to it, and the more you will want to use it. It brings out your creativity, and helps everyone around you flower. Your children, the people you work with – everyone blooms.” 

Marion Woodman

(Of course), true in the therapeutic context too. We look for therapists who we think may be able to love, in this sense – which means being present to self-in-the-moment and to vulnerability, the soil in which the capacity to love grows.

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