Brené Brown on asking for help

“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on “going it alone.” Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into “those who offer help” and “those who need help.” The truth is that we are both.”

Brené Brown: The Gifts of Imperfection

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Sun/Solstice Gong – Matt Nolan

It’s been a while since we posted music. Click on the link to hear Matt Nolan sound his mind-blowing custom-made sun gong on You Tube. A very gifted man. Some extraordinary aural beauty for your Solstice….

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Sometimes – David Whyte

Depth and beauty from David. Here’s the text, for those who have trouble seeing Facebook links.

SOMETIMES

Sometimes
if you move carefully
through the forest,

breathing
like the ones
in the old stories,

who could cross
a shimmering bed
of leaves
without a sound,

you come
to a place
whose only task

is to trouble you
with tiny
but frightening
requests,

conceived out of nowhere
but in this place
beginning to lead everywhere.

Requests to stop what
you are doing right now,
and

to stop what you
are becoming
while you do it,

questions
that can make
or unmake
a life,

questions
that have patiently
waited for you,

questions
that have no right
to go away.

SOMETIMES
From ‘Everything Is Waiting for You’
© David Whyte and Many Rivers Press

 

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Simone Weil on Grace

“All the natural movements of the soul are controlled by laws analogous to those of physical gravity. Grace is the only exception. Grace fills empty spaces, but it can only enter where there is a void to receive it, and it is grace itself which makes this void. The imagination is continually at work filling up all the fissures through which grace might pass.”

Gravity and Grace: Simone Weil

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‘People (often) don’t need help. They need love. Acceptance’ Monica Cassani

https://beyondmeds.com/2017/06/10/people-dont-need-help/

Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s superb resource site: http://www.beyondmeds.com

This post describes person-centred in a nutshell, and is what we seek to offer at this service: holding loving space for a person as they explore their inner world; make their own needful connections; find their own healing and expansion. The Rachel Naomi Remen quote is one of our favourites…

“Helping, fixing and serving represent three different ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak. When you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may be the work of the ego, and service the work of the soul….

…Serving is different from helping. Helping is not a relationship between equals. A helper may see others as weaker than they are, needier than they are, and people often feel this inequality. The danger in helping is that we may inadvertently take away from people more than we could ever give them; we may diminish their self-esteem, their sense of worth, integrity or even wholeness.”

Rachel Naomi Remen 

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‘Campaign’ Carol Ann Duffy

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2017/jun/10/campaign-a-poem-by-carol-ann-duffy-exclusively-for-the-guardian

Click on the above link to visit the Guardian for this wonderful poem by Carol Ann Duffy. Says it better than we could…

Thank you Carol Ann.

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