Monthly Archives: July 2017

Kristina Kuzmic on valuing & offering our gifts

Posted on July 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We like this. There’s a lot of positivity/law of attraction stuff around which seems unhelpful or even toxic – implying that, of we cannot feel better or improve our lives, we are somehow deficient or not trying hard enough … Continue reading →

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Tomas Hunt on Navajo Dance

Posted on July 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to visit Facebook for this lovely little film about finding aliveness in dance, moving through experiences of bullying and racism, and using dance to connect with people, ignite sparks of creativity and joy, and share … Continue reading →

Posted in bullying, consciousness, creativity, cultural questions, Dance, embodiment, empowerment, encounter, flow, growth, mindfulness, movement meditation, physical being, power and powerlessness, presence, sadness & pain, scapegoating, self concept, self esteem, surrender, trauma | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, aliveness, art therapy, conscious dance, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creative therapies, creativity, dance and therapy, dance and well being, dance as political, embodiment, experiences of bullying, experiences of racism, expressive therapies, holistic well being, immediacy, low cost counselling exeter, mindfulness, movement meditation, Navajo dance, Navajo hoop dance, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, presence, presence in the moment, sand play, sand tray, the here and now, Tomas Hunt, working with trauma, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Duet – Amy Yakima & Travis Wall

Posted on July 25, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Worldwidedance on Facebook, for this beautiful, expressive pair dance by Amy and Travis, about connection and sexual relationship. Travis also did the choreography for this piece. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling … Continue reading →

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What Chester Bennington’s death tells us about mental health awareness

Posted on July 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://doctorgoatblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/22/what-chester-benningtons-death-tells-us-about-mental-health-awareness/ Click on the link above for this wise, heartful post by an anonymous blogger who identifies as Dr Goat. This expresses much of how we make sense of human distress at this service. There is (for example) no evidence … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein on The Difference Between a Money Economy & a Gift Economy

Posted on July 19, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this clip of Charles Eisenstein on Sustainable Human’s Facebook page, talking about the qualities of a gift economy, and the adverse impact on us and our cultures of ascribing value primarily in monetary terms. … Continue reading →

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Oluwasen Talabi on escaping Grenfell Tower

Posted on July 18, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Harrowing and heartbreaking film with Oluwasen Talabi describing his experience for ABC News. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Ahmad Joudeh on being a Syrian dancer

Posted on July 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Inspiring, sad and lovely. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

Posted in civil rights, conflict, creativity, cultural questions, cultural taboos, Dance, embodiment, empowerment, flow, Gender & culture, gender identity, identity, internal locus of evaluation, masculine, movement meditation, non-conforming, physical being, political, resilience, risk, self, trauma, violence | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, Ahmad Joudeh, coercion, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, dance as freedom, dance as political, embodiment, external locus, follow your bliss, follow your dream, follow your passion, following your dream, gender and culture, gender identity, internal locus, low cost counselling exeter, Movement Medicine, non conforming, oppression, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, post traumatic stress, PTS, trauma response, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

5 things I wish you knew before euthanizing your dog – Kelsey Beth Carpenter

Posted on July 13, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://pupjournal.com/5-things-wish-knew-euthanizing/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=pj-share Click on the above link for this reflective, kind, helpful piece on a difficult theme by a veterinary technician. The writer of this post has seen many beloved creatures on their final journeys, and resonated with these comments, whether … Continue reading →

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Ayanna Cruver on being stopped by police in the U.S.

Posted on July 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This brought tears to the writer as well. Grateful to Ayanna for posting it. It needs to be seen. Something is profoundly wrong in our societies, when this is how we impact each other. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling … Continue reading →

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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

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