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‘Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink’ Kristi Coulter

Posted on July 4, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Giving up alcohol opened my eyes to the infuriating truth about why women drink Click on the above link to visit Quartz Media’s site, for Kristi’s great piece about women, alcohol and our culture. This is from a U.S. perspective … Continue reading →

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The Loneliness of Donald Trump – Rebecca Solnit

Posted on June 29, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://lithub.com/rebecca-solnit-the-loneliness-of-donald-trump/ Click on the link above to visit http://www.lithub.com for this perceptive and sad piece by Rebecca. ““They were careless people,” F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote of the rich couple at the heart of The Great Gatsby. “They smashed up things and … Continue reading →

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An Introduction to Transgender People: National Center for Transgender Equality

Posted on February 28, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have therapists at this service with experience working with transgender people* – and in this culture that work inevitably tends to include experiences of bigotry, discrimination, othering, intrusive behaviour, false assumptions and generalisations…the list goes on. Their clients’ … Continue reading →

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Hello self-loathing, my old friend – Elisabeth Svanholmer

Posted on November 29, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Hello Self-loathing, my old friend… Click on the link above to visit Elisabeth’s website – http://www.livinglifegently.live – to read this post. The writer experiences regular turns of this wheel herself, and so do most of those she works with. Elisabeth’s perspective … Continue reading →

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Attorney General Lynch & the ‘bathroom law’

Posted on June 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Seems a good day to post this. For those not following the story, North Carolina’s infamous ‘Bathroom law’ – amongst other things – requires transgender people to use toilets consistent with their birth gender, not their gender identity. Loretta Lynch’s powerful … Continue reading →

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What to do when you’re not the hero any more – Laurie Penny

Posted on January 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/culture/film/2015/12/what-do-when-youre-not-hero-any-more Good article from Laurie Penny, about the shifting sands of contemporary cultural heroism in fiction. The writer (like one of the commentators on the article) thinks Laurie is a touch unfair to Joseph Campbell, and that his work is more balanced, … Continue reading →

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Person-centred basics: expertise of the person-centred counsellor – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne

Posted on October 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The fourth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. ‘The person-centred counsellor must learn to wear her expertise as an invisible garment in order to be an effective counsellor. Experts are expected to dispense their expertise, to recommend what should … Continue reading →

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Carl Rogers on remembering our humanity

Posted on October 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Before every session, I take a moment to remember my humanity. There is no experience that this man has that I cannot share with him, no fear that I cannot understand, no suffering that I cannot care about, because I … Continue reading →

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Brian Thorne on the awesome task of the person-centred therapist

Posted on October 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The person-centred therapist is charged with the awesome task of becoming fully human and the core conditions are the applied practice of that task. It is as if the work of the professional therapist in the person-centred tradition constitutes a … Continue reading →

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Small Talk – Life on a Farm – Luanne Armstrong

Posted on October 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalonenessproject.org/library/articles/small-talk-life-farm Fascinating and lovely piece by Luanne, about engagement with the natural world. Reminded us too, of this recent post featuring Charles Eisenstein, also about changing how we relate to the non-human world. https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2015/08/12/charles-eisenstein-the-ecosexual-awakening/ It seems to us that the … Continue reading →

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