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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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‘Surrender more. Seek less’ – Monica Cassani on Beyond Meds

Posted on October 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Surrender more. Seek less. Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s treasure trove site, http://www.beyondmeds.com, for a post on how trying to change yourself can be an ineffective strategy. Carl Rogers agreed with her on this (and so do we):- … Continue reading →

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Paulo Coelho on Awakening love

Posted on September 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings … Continue reading →

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Lao Tzu on presence and awareness

Posted on September 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Do you think that you can clear your mind by sitting constantly in silent meditation? This makes your mind narrow, not clear. Integral awareness is fluid and adaptable, present in all places and at all times. That is true meditation… … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Posted on August 31, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listening he describes is akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on finding our feelings in therapy

Posted on August 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I suspect we could all tell a story similar to that told by the playwright David Hare recalling his childhood in post-war Britain: ‘In the other half of our semi-detached lived a solicitor and his wife. She had perfectly mastered … Continue reading →

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Send Forgiveness Viral – The Project

Posted on July 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Stop the outrage and #SendForgivenessViral | Written by Waleed Aly & Tom Whitty (@twhittyer) #TheProjectTV https://t.co/lMonyEhmB5 — #TheProjectTV (@theprojecttv) July 19, 2016 Forgiveness is a tricky word… The writer has often experienced working with a deeply traumatized human being who … Continue reading →

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Not invading, not abandoning… Donald Winnicott

Posted on June 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer was talking to a therapist the other day, who offered her a Donald Winnicott thought – for which many thanks. She cannot quote it directly, as she has not yet been able to track it down (any help … Continue reading →

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Brian Thorne on belovedness, sexuality & power in therapy

Posted on May 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

In the passage before this excerpt, Brian has been talking about the idea of the ‘beloved’, in the context of the writings of Julian of Norwich. How any of us makes sense of ‘beloved’ will depend on personal experiences and conceptual structures/language. It is an … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on Serving

Posted on May 16, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Many times when we help we do not really serve. . . . Serving is also different from fixing. One of the pioneers of the Human Potential Movement, Abraham Maslow, said, “If all you have is a hammer, everything looks … Continue reading →

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